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How To Give A Great Wedding Toast: Tips, Do’s and Dont’s & Examples

Wedding toasts are tricky. We’ve got some helpful tips to guide you towards a great wedding toast that you and your favorite couple will remember fondly for years, so grab your notepads and get ready for some key(note) advice.

By Monica Mercuri

Wedding toasts are tricky—especially if it’s your first time. You’ve got a lot of different people to please, and couples can be extra-sensitive on their wedding day (or at their rehearsal dinner). After all, they’ve got a whole room of the most important people in their lives looking at them. Because of this, there’s a lot of pressure on these speeches. With that in mind, we’ve gathered some helpful tips to guide you towards the best wedding toast that you and your favorite couple will remember fondly for years. So, keep your notepad at the ready and prepare for some key(note) advice. This is our ultimate guide to writing and giving a wedding toast.

Who Gives a Wedding Toast?

Are you unsure if you need to come up with a wedding toast or not? Generally speaking, the following people give a toast at the reception:

• The father of the bride
• The bride and groom
• The best man
• The maid of honor

That being said, the couple may request that another important family member (such as a grandparent or the mother of the groom ), bridesmaid, or groomsman also speak.

Wedding Toast Tips

1. prepare..

Give some thought as to what you’re going to say and jot down some notes, whether or not you plan on using them at the reception. You might trip up your words or lose your train of thought if you “wing it,” so our advice is to, well, not. Respect the couple on their wedding day by giving your wedding toast the thoughtful preparation it deserves. That means preparing it well in advance and rehearsing a few times in order to gauge the length and flow of your speech. Trust us, both the couple and you will be grateful you did.

2. Be yourself.

Be true to yourself. If you’re not naturally funny, don’t try to be. If you’re not one for mushy sentimentality, don’t go there. Be honest and give a few words about why your relationship with the bride and/or groom is a special one and why you admire their partnership. It’s as simple as that.

3. Keep it short.

For those fearful of public speaking, you may be happy to hear that most wedding toasts are somewhere around three minutes long . Remember, you’re performing a wedding toast, not a filibuster. All you really need to do is introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the couple, share a special memory or story about the pair (or the bride and/or groom separately), say congratulations, and wish them a long, happy future. Keep it short and sweet.

4. Say congratulations.

You won’t believe how many people forget this essential wedding toast component. The whole purpose of a wedding coast is to wish the newlyweds well, so make sure this word makes it into your speech.

5. Look at the person you're toasting.

Don’t stare down the couple, but keep in mind that they are the recipients of your speech and the most important people in your audience. You are not putting on a show for the wedding guests, but toasting your good friend (or sibling, son, or daughter), their new spouse, and their future. A little eye contact goes a long way. That being said, don’t be afraid to glance down at some note cards here and there.

6. Coordinate with the wedding planner.

Make sure you know the reception timeline and general order of events—don’t even think about bugging the bride or groom with questions about when you’re “on.” Speak with the wedding planner (or the person acting in this capacity—even the DJ or bandleader might know) so you know when and where you are supposed to give your toast, what kind of mic you’ll have, and where to place your notes if necessary.

Wedding Toast Outline Template

Follow this general outline for your wedding toast, and you’ll be golden:

Greeting and self-introduction

Thanks to the hosts for the great party

Funny, attention-grabbing opening line

Great anecdote(s) about the bride/groom (best if it supports #3)

Reasons why the bride/groom is great (as demonstrated in #4)

Reasons why the bride/groom’s partner is great, and why they’re a great match

Great anecdote about them as a couple (best if it supports #6)

Congratulations, a beautiful quotation, and/or sweet wishes

Toast to the happy couple’s future

Wedding Toast Dos and Dont’s

There are many different types of toasts you can give. But whether you decide to give a funny wedding toast or a more sentimental one, there's a right and wrong way to do it. Here’s a list of things you should DO when giving a perfect wedding toast:

DO research and crowdsource.

The best wedding speeches are those that let the audience know a little bit more about the bride and/or groom—in a good way—so try to include some funny or sweet stories from their childhoods, adolescence, or young adulthoods. Ask the couple’s parents, siblings, or other close friends for any great tidbits that you could weave into your toast for greater authenticity.

DO be a storyteller.

Good stories make for good toasts. Take your listeners on a little journey about the couple and how we arrived at this special day. If you’re part of the wedding party representing just one of the newlyweds, explain what kind of person s/he is (as demonstrated by X anecdote from the past), how you know each other, how s/he met the other newlywed, how their relationship grew, why they are such a great match, and what you hope for their future. If you can weave in a little thematic joke or a narrative through-line, even better.

DO combine humor with emotion.

A perfect wedding toast includes a healthy mix of humor, sentimentality, good-natured ribbing, and sincerity. You want the couple, and the rest of the guests, to feel both amused and touched by your words. If you’re naturally funny, include some clean jokes that won’t hurt anyone’s feelings (jokes at your own expense are alway a safe bet). If you always botch the punch line, it’s perfectly fine to stick to a straightforward message of warmth and congratulations.

DO borrow language.

Not all of us were born with the gift of gab. If Wordsworth you are not, there’s no shame in stealing some great lines from the masters. Look up some quotations on love, relationships, or marriage to either guide your speech’s theme or to pepper in at the beginning and end for greatest impact. Writers and essayists like Martin Luther King Jr., Pablo Neruda, Shakespeare, or any of the Romantic poets are good places to look for inspiring quotations.

DO practice out loud.

Nowhere is the phrase “practice makes perfect” more true than in public speaking. Besides familiarizing yourself with the material, you’ll be able to hear any mistakes, awkward phrasing, or weird timing when experiencing the words out loud. Practice reading your speech to a partner or friend, get their feedback (and have them time you so you know if you need to add or cut), and practice again until you feel solid.

DO speak clearly.

If you have a bring-down-the-house kind of wedding toast but no one can understand it, what good will it do? Make sure your one-liners zing and your heartfelt wishes bring tears by speaking loudly and clearly, enunciating your words, and appropriately using a microphone or other AV equipment that’s provided.

DO keep it clean(ish).

This one is obvious, right? The key here is to know your audience. Remember that you’re addressing the entire guest list—which might include ages 3 to 93. Joking about adult topics must be done subtly and in good taste. To keep things classy, be intentionally vague and keep the examples lighthearted. Don’t go into sordid detail, don’t share anything that could get anyone in trouble, don’t reveal anything truly humiliating, and avoid bathroom humor.

DO address both newlyweds.

So that your speech doesn’t feel awkwardly lopsided, be sure to say some kind, sincere, and personal words to both of the people who just got married. If you are friends with both of them, even more reason to share an anecdote about why they are great individually and doubly great together.

DO end on a sweet note.

No matter what else you say or do, end your wedding speech with positivity. Congratulations on the marriage, happy wishes for the couple’s future together, and a general toast in their direction are customary (for a reason) and always well-received.

And here’s a list of things you should NOT DO when giving a great wedding toast:

DON’T ramble.

Tell a short (short) story, not a novel. No one wants to hear you digress about something unrelated to your key message, or worse, about yourself. Remember, this isn’t your show—this moment is about the newly married couple, so resist the urge to go off on a tangent .

DON’T be too mean, crass, or dirty.

Making people laugh is good. Making people uncomfortable is not. Offensive, off-color, or any mean-spirited joke at the expense of an individual or group is a no-fly zone. If you have to stop and ask yourself, “Should I say this?,” it’s a good indication that you should just not. And if you normally swear like a sailor, watch your language and avoid profanity.

DON’T tell inside jokes.

If only you and the bride or groom (or a small handful of other people) will understand what you’re talking about, then it’s probably not good material to include in a wedding speech. You don’t want to alienate your audience by making them feel like they’re not in on the joke. Stick to universal topics and be inclusive in your story- and joke-telling.

DON’T get tipsy.

While it might be tempting to throw back a few after the “I dos” to loosen up for your moment in the spotlight, use common sense. Has consuming alcohol in a short amount of time ever helped you be more articulate, quick on your feet, or sensitive to the passage of time? Our guess is no. Wait until after your speech to take advantage of the open bar, because it will be clear to the crowd if you are not in your best frame of mind.

DON’T dwell on your blunders.

Every public speaker misses a line or trips up their words now and then. Rather than drawing attention to an error by apologizing profusely or joking about how bad a public speaker you are, simply make a quick correction or skip over it and move on. Dwell any further, and your audience will get uncomfortable or lose confidence in you.

DON’T just read—engage.

While you certainly don’t need to memorize your speech, it’s public speaking 101 that just reading aloud from a piece of paper (or your phone) without acknowledging the crowd is a no-no. Know your speech well enough so that you don’t have to look at it word-for-word. Take time to look around, make eye contact (especially when you’re addressing the happy couple), and pause for laughter or applause.

DON’T rush.

Being nervous is totally normal—but if your nerves are too apparent, they can distract your audience or put them on edge. A clear sign of being nervous is racing through your speech like you’re competing for a NASCAR trophy. Take deep breaths, use the above tips about audience engagement, and speak clearly and slowly. We promise, it’ll be over before you know it.

DON’T go long.

That being said, don’t be long-winded or hog too much of the wedding reception’s precious timeline, or your audience will start wondering when they can get on the dance floor rather than pay attention to your eloquence. Stick to whatever time frame the couple recommended, or if you’re on your own, aim for 2-3 minutes.

DON’T talk about yourself.

This day is not about you, so your toast definitely shouldn’t be. A personal anecdote about you AND the bride and/or groom is great, so long as it illuminates funny (and flattering) points about the other’s personality, talents, or achievements. Watch how many times you say “I” and “me” and cut back if you find these words dominating your speech to avoid coming off as insincere.

DON’T mention exes.

At all. Ever. Seriously. Don’t do it. It will make things awkward, and like we said before, people are extra-sensitive on their big day.

DON’T say anything negative.

If you have any doubt whether a joke will offend the bride, groom, or their parents, leave it out of your toast. Keep in mind, it’s a toast, not a roast.

Questions to Ask Yourself When Writing

All the tips in the world can help you write your wedding speech to a point. Asking yourself a few important questions, however, can really aid you in honing in on what you’d like to say. As you sit down to write (or revisit) your wedding toast, remember to ask yourself the following. Give your answers some good thought and don’t be afraid to change them.

What tone should you be aiming for? Wedding toasts can span a variety of tones, from playful to very formal. Before writing anything down, ask yourself what tone would be most appropriate for the couple, their guests, and the occasion. For example, if the wedding is a black tie affair and the couple is going all out, we recommend avoiding embarrassing stories or dirty jokes. If the couple and reception are more laid back, feel free to go for a few laughs. If you’re unsure if your speech should lean heartfelt, funny, or elsewhere, ask the couple for their preference.

What story (or stories) are right to tell? As a best friend or family member, we’re betting you have a lot of stories and memories with the bride(s), groom(s), or both. That being said, not just any story should be included in your toast. Consider memories that display the couple’s best qualities, or one that shines a nice light on their relationship. You can also include the story of how you know the bride(s) and/or groom(s). We recommend sticking to two stories tops—how you know the couple and a fond memory.

How can I back up what I’m saying? When describing the bride(s) or groom(s) great qualities, try not to list them out and move on. If you want to mention how kind and thoughtful the bride is, ask yourself if you have a short story that can back that up. Doing so is more interesting and convincing for the audience.

Do I have any advice for the couple? Perhaps you’re married or are in a successful life partnership. If this is the case, ask yourself if there’s any advice you’d like to offer the couple that they can take into their new marriage and beyond. We recommend zeroing in on one detailed piece of advice or 1-3 quick ones (e.g. never stop dating your partner and always communicate).

How am I doing on time? Throughout the toast writing process, remember to check in with yourself and ask how long your speech is. It’s easier to be aware of timing while writing than to go back and have to edit things down. We suggest, after writing each “section” (introduction, story, etc.) that you time yourself while reading it allowed. When you’re finished, do the same to ensure you land around 2-5 minutes.

Wedding Toast Topics To Avoid

There are really never any circumstances under which the following topics are a good idea to bring up in a wedding toast or speech. Don’t touch these subject matters with a 10-foot pole:

• Exes or previous marriages.
• General negativity about marriage.
• Illegal activity.
• Pornography or strip clubs. Just don’t.
• X-rated stuff.
• Sex, drugs, drinking, gambling…use your judgment.
• Bathroom stuff.
• Your own drama.

Wedding Toast Examples

With plenty of tips in mind, let’s put them into practice. The following are a couple wedding toast examples. Feel free to take inspiration from them and personalize with your own stories, qualities, jokes, and more.

Maid of Honor/Best Man Toast Example

A maid of honor or best man speech should be heartfelt, earnest, and perhaps a bit humorous. For example:

Good evening, everyone. Tonight we gather to celebrate the marriage of [Name] and [Name]. As many of your already know, I’m [Your Name], the sibling/cousin/best friend of the bride/groom. I’m so grateful to be part of this important day and beautiful celebration.

Bride/Groom , as long as I’ve known you, you’ve been exceptionally kind and open-minded.

Share a story or two that display these traits.

I’m thrilled that you’ve found someone that shares and appreciates these qualities of yours, as well as many more.

Share a memory about the couple or spouse .

Tonight, we celebrate the union of two beautiful, wonderful people. Please join me in raising your glass as we toast to the Bride and Groom/Brides/Groom and their happiness for years to come.

Couple's Parents Toast Example

The father or mother of the bride or groom, or another important family member, may also share a toast with the crowd. For example:

Today I am overjoyed to officially welcome Bride/Groom into my family. As long as I’ve known them, they’ve made my son/daughter/child/niece/nephew/grandchild immensely happy and I look forward to watching this happiness grow for years to come.

Share 1-2 memories from the bride or groom’s childhood or young adult life.

When you first introduced me to Bride/Groom, I could immediately sense your immense love and care for one-another.

Share a memory about the couple.

Bride/Groom , I know you will always love and support [Name], as I have. I’m honored to join our families and love you both so much. Congratulations!

Being asked to give a rehearsal dinner or reception toast can bring on the pressure. However, if you follow our tips and speak from the heart, odds are you’ll do a wonderful job honoring the couple. Prepare, breathe, and be ready to celebrate!

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How to Write a Wedding Toast: 10 Tips & Examples

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A wedding toast is an important tradition in many cultures, as it gives friends and family a chance to celebrate the love and commitment of the newlyweds publicly.

Learning how to write a wedding toast is important because it’s a way for friends and family to show their support and love for the newlyweds. It can also be a platform for friends and family to share special memories and moments about the couple and their relationship.

Who gives a toast at weddings?

Traditionally, the best man, the couple’s parents, give toasts at weddings. However, other members of the wedding party, close friends, and family members may also give toasts.

Parents often give wedding toasts to express their love and support for the newlyweds and to wish them a happy and fulfilling future together. They might share memories and stories about the couple, offer advice and well wishes, and raise a toast to their future happiness.

How to write a wedding toast?

Finding the right words to express your emotions and feelings about the couple and their relationship can be challenging. So, you may wonder how to write a wedding toast; start by thinking about the couple and what you admire about their relationship.

Write down some wedding toast ideas and brainstorm about the couple, their love story, and what you want to say in the toast. Draft a structure for your toast, including an opening, body, and conclusion.

The opening should grab the audience’s attention, while the body should provide more detail about the couple and their relationship. The conclusion should be a heartfelt well-wish for the newlyweds.

Practice your toast several times to get comfortable with the delivery, and make any final edits or adjustments. Remember, the toast is a celebration of love, and your goal is to add to the joy and happiness of the occasion.

10 wedding toast examples

A toast in wedding is a way to commemorate the occasion and the start of the couple’s life together, and it will be remembered for years to come. Most importantly, a toast to the bride and groom is a celebration of love and a way to honor the love and commitment of the newlyweds.

Let’s give examples if you’re wondering how to write a wedding toast.

Traditional wedding toasts

Here are some wedding speech examples:

• “Ladies and gentlemen, I am honored to be here today to toast the newlyweds. (bride’s name) and (groom’s name), I have known you both for many years, and I have never seen two people more perfect for each other. Your love for each other is truly inspiring, and I am so grateful to be a part of this special day.

To the bride and groom, I wish you a lifetime of love, laughter, and happiness. May your marriage be filled with joy and adventure, and you always support each other through life’s ups and downs.

Here’s to a lifetime of love, happiness, and memories. Congratulations, (bride’s name) and (groom’s name)!”

• “Ladies and Gentlemen, I want to toast the beautiful couple we are here to celebrate today. Today marks the beginning of a new chapter in their lives, filled with love, laughter, and adventure. To the bride and groom, may your love for each other grow stronger with each passing day.

May your love be the foundation of your marriage, and may you never forget why you fell in love in the first place. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness and joy.”

• “Ladies and Gentlemen, I am honored to stand before you today and offer a toast to the newlyweds. Today marks the beginning of a journey filled with challenges and triumphs, but their love for each other may be the anchor that keeps them strong.

May they be blessed with good health, wealth, and happiness and live a long and loving life together. Here’s to the bride and groom; may their love continue to blossom and flourish with each passing year.”

• “Ladies and Gentlemen, it is a privilege to be here today to celebrate the union of two beautiful souls. To the couple, may your marriage be filled with love, laughter, and happiness. May you always find comfort in each other’s arms, and may your love for each other only grows stronger with each passing day.

Here’s to a lifetime of love, happiness, and adventure for the beautiful couple we are here to celebrate today.”

Funny wedding toasts

Are you trying to create a funny wedding toast that will make everyone laugh? Here are three examples of a toast for wedding couple

• Best Man: “I’ve known the groom for a long time, and let me tell you, he’s made many mistakes in his life. But choosing his partner was not one of them! To the newlyweds!”
• Maid of Honor: “I have to say, [bride’s name] always did have great taste. I mean, just look at the dress she picked out for today! And [partner’s name], I must admit, you clean up pretty nicely too. To the newlyweds!”
• Bridesmaid: “When [bride’s name] asked me to be a bridesmaid , I was thrilled. But when she told me the dress’s color, I was like, “Oh no, not that color again!” But you know what? It all worked out in the end, and here we are, toasting to the newlyweds!”

Parent wedding toasts

If you are looking for wedding speech ideas, you can look at certain wedding speeches for inspiration. Here are three examples of parent wedding toasts:

• “My dear son/daughter, I am so proud of the person you have become and your chosen partner. May your love continue to grow and flourish, and may you be blessed with a lifetime of happiness together. Cheers to the newlyweds!”
• “To my son and his beautiful partner, I couldn’t be happier for the two of you on this special day. May your love be a source of strength and comfort to each other, and may your lives be filled with laughter and joy. To the newlyweds !”
• “My dear child, I am honored to stand here today and celebrate your love and commitment to each other. May your marriage be filled with love, laughter, and endless happiness. Cheers to the newlyweds!”

10 wedding toast tips

Wedding toasts can set the right tone for a wedding party. They can lift the mood, remind people about old memories or make them laugh. 

Here are some tips that can help you write the perfect wedding toast.

1. Be prepared

Plan your toast ahead of time and practice it before the wedding day. If you want to give awesome wedding toasts, avoid controversial topics, crude humor, or anything that may be inappropriate or offensive.

2. Speak clearly

Make sure you speak loud and clear so that everyone can hear you. Slow down and pause between sentences and thoughts to give your audience time to absorb your speech.

 3. Use humor

A lighthearted joke can help break the ice and get guests laughing. Make sure the humor you use is appropriate and will be well received by the couple and their guests.

4. Keep it short

Aim for a toast that lasts around 2-3 minutes. Stick to the main points and avoid getting sidetracked by tangents or unnecessary details.

5. Personalize the toast

Include personal anecdotes or stories about the couple. Share a personal story or memory about the couple that highlights their relationship or mention specific qualities or traits you admire in each newlywed.

6. Be positive

Keep the tone light, warm, and positive. Avoid discussing sensitive or embarrassing topics. Focus on the love and happiness of the couple and their future together.

For this, you can include points that are included in Marriage.com’s pre-marriage course online .

7. Toast the couple

Make sure the toast is centered around the couple, not yourself. Highlight the couple’s strengths, accomplishments, and qualities that make them a great team.

8. Offer wishes

Express well wishes for the couple’s future together. You can wish the couple a lifetime of love, happiness, and joy and that their love continues to grow and flourish.

9. Raise a glass

End your toast by raising a glass to the happy couple.

10. End with a bang

Conclude your toast with a memorable line or phrase that will stay with the couple and guests.

Following these tips, you can deliver a memorable and meaningful wedding toast that the couple and guests will cherish.

5 wedding toast template

If you have access to certain wedding toast templates, these can guide you in giving your toast a rough structure. A wedding toast template could be:

1. Introduction

Start by introducing yourself and your relationship to the bride and groom. The introduction when toasting at weddings serves as an opening statement that sets the tone for the rest of the speech.

It’s important because it helps set the mood for the event, whether lighthearted or serious. The introduction is often the first impression that the speaker makes on the audience, so it is crucial to make it clear, concise, and memorable.

2. Congratulations

Offer your congratulations to the couple and acknowledge the significance of the day. Congratulations are essential to a wedding toast as they express well wishes and recognize the newlyweds’ commitment to each other.

They support and affirm the marriage and help set a celebratory tone for the event.

3. Memories

Share any memorable experiences you’ve had with the bride and groom.

This can include sharing fond memories of the couple, anecdotes about how they met, or moments demonstrating their love and commitment to each other. Sharing these memories helps to paint a picture of the couple’s relationship and gives a deeper insight into their love story.

However, it’s important to keep the tone light and positive and avoid sharing anything inappropriate or embarrassing for the couple.

Offer well wishes for the couple’s future together. This can include wishes for happiness, love, success, and more. Wishes are a significant part of a wedding toast as they express hope for the couple’s future.

It’s essential to keep the wishes sincere and meaningful and to deliver them with warmth and generosity. Wishing the couple a long and joyful life together is a great way to end a wedding toast and leave a lasting impression on the guests.

The end of a toast is important, and if you’re wondering how to end a toast, then you’re in the right place. Raise your glass and say, “Here’s to the happy couple.” and invite others to join in the toast. An example includes:

“I wish the couple a lifetime of happiness, love, and adventure. May they always support each other, communicate openly , and make each other smile.

So, let us raise a glass to the happy couple. Here’s to [bride and groom’s names]. Cheers!”

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Some commonly asked questions

If you are trying to write a memorable wedding toast, here are some questions that might help you understand the task better:

What do you say in a short wedding toast?

A short wedding toast could start with congratulations to the newlyweds and a wish for their happiness and love to endure. You could also include a memorable anecdote or a personal connection to the couple before raising a toast in their honor.

How do you start a toast at a wedding?

Making a toast at a wedding can be done in several ways, but here are some tips to make your opening memorable and effective. These can teach you how to give a wedding toast.

– Greet the audience

Begin by welcoming the guests and acknowledging their presence.

– Recognize the occasion

Mention that you are honored to be giving a toast at such an important event.

– Express gratitude

Express your gratitude to the couple for allowing you to be a part of their special day.

– Acknowledge the couple

Pay tribute to the couple by talking about their love and commitment to each other.

– Set the tone

Establish a joyous and celebratory tone for the rest of the toast by making a warm and lighthearted comment.

What is the traditional wedding toast?

The traditional wedding toast is a speech given at a wedding reception to honor the newlyweds and celebrate their marriage. It typically involves offering congratulations, expressing good wishes, and raising a glass to the couple.

The best man often gives the traditional wedding toast to the bride’s parents or the maid of honor. But it can also be given by anyone who wants to offer their love and support to the newlyweds.

Knowing how to write a wedding toast is straightforward if you are ready to put in the effort. The toast typically begins with a warm welcome to the guests and a recognition of the couple’s love and commitment to each other. The toast usually concludes with a raise of the glass and a cheerful “to the happy couple .”

What is a wedding toast speech example?

Certain people look for some examples that can help guide them in writing one of their own. Here is a wedding toast speech example:

“Good day, everyone; I am honored to be here today to celebrate the union of (couple’s name). They say that love is a journey, not a destination, and today marks the beginning of that journey together.

I have known you for many years, and I can honestly say that you bring out the best in each other. Your love and devotion to each other are truly inspiring, and I am confident you will have a lifetime of happiness together.

So, let us raise a glass to the happy couple.”

How long should a wedding toast be?

When learning how to write a wedding toast, you should know that it typically lasts 3-5 minutes. The length can vary, but it’s essential to strike a balance between being heartfelt and meaningful to avoid boring the audience.

Short wedding toasts are concise, focused, and to the point while delivering a heartfelt and memorable message.

Final takeaway

A well-delivered wedding toast can be a touching and memorable moment that brings people together and creates a sense of unity and happiness. This is why knowing how to write a wedding toast is necessary.

Whether a heartfelt tribute to the couple or a lighthearted joke, a wedding toast is an opportunity to celebrate love, friendship, and the start of a new journey together.

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Want to give a wedding toast? Here are the best wedding toast examples, from words of wisdom from the father of the bride to hilarious, heartfelt quotes

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Writing a wedding speech isn’t always easy, so finishing with a wedding toast can be a great way to round off your message to the newlyweds.

Finding the right words for a wedding toast can be tough, but thinking about what the happy couple would like to hear is a great place to start. Perhaps the pair like cracking jokes, and would prefer a funny wedding toast one-liner? Or maybe they’re more romantic, and would prefer a sentimental anecdote.

Try to remember if they share a favourite film or inspirational quote, as they can make for an awesome wedding toast.

We’ve rounded up all our top wedding toast examples so you’ll have lots of options. Whether you’re searching for the perfect father of the bride speech, or you’re a groom looking for the right words to say to his new partner, you’ll find plenty of ideas and inspiration.

For those that are a little nervous, you might like to go for something punchy, so consider a short wedding speech. If you’re a bit of a wordsmith, take a look at our longer rhyming toasts. Most of these wedding toast samples traditionally refer to a bride and groom, but it’s easy to mix them up for all LGBTQ+ couples.

The toast marks the end of your speech, so think of it as a safety net that is there to catch you if you lose your place or forget your words. It’s also the chance to take a much deserved drink, so enjoy it!

If you're looking for wedding toast tips in a hurry, here are five simple and snappy wedding toasts in under one minute - feel free to borrow one of these.

Types of Wedding Toast

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Traditional Wedding Toasts

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• Wedding Toast from Parents
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• Wedding Toast to Groom

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Ready to get stuck in? Scroll on to discover some of our favourite wedding toasts, to suit all styles of wedding speech, and all speech givers!

Wedding toasts have been around for centuries. Many of these traditional toasts are either proverbs or blessings from the likes of Ireland or Armenia. Use one of these for a sentimental toast, wishing a bright future on the couple. There's a lot of use of husband and wife so adapt if you're toasting an LGBTQ+ couple to suit how they prefer to be identified.

“Here’s to the past, for all that you’ve learnt. Here’s to the present, for all that you share. Here’s to the future, for all that you’ve got to look forward to.”

“May these rich blessings be your due… A wealth of friendships, old and new, Quiet nights and busy days, time for prayer and time for praise, Some service rendered, some solace given, And gentle peace with God and heaven.”

“May thy life be long and happy, Thy cares and sorrows few; And the many friends around thee Prove faithful, fond and true.”

“May your wedding days be few and your anniversaries many.”

“Please make sure your glasses are charged and join me in toasting the new Mr and Mrs [NAME]. Ladies and gentlemen, to the bride and groom!”

“May you live as long as you like, and have all you like for as long as you live.”

“May the hinges of friendship never rust Or the wings of love lose a feather! Ladies and gentlemen, the bride and the groom May they live happily forever.”

“To the bride and groom, may the roof above you never fall in and may you both never fall out.”

“Let’s drink to love, which is nothing – unless it’s divided by two.”

“May you never steal, lie, or cheat, but if you must steal, then steal away my sorrows, and if you must lie, lie with me all the nights of my life, and if you must cheat, then please cheat death because I couldn’t live a day without you.”

“I wish thee health, I wish thee wealth I wish thee gold in store I wish thee heaven upon earth. What could I wish thee more?”

“Here’s to the new husband and here’s to the new wife. May they remain lovers for all of life.”

“To long life and happiness – for your life will be my happiness.”

“To the lamp of love – may it burn brightest in the darkest hours and never flicker in the winds of trial.”

“Here’s to the bride, May your hours of joy be as numerous as the petals of your bridal bouquet. Here’s to the groom, A man who keeps his head though he loses his heart.”

“Live life to the fullest – remember, this is the first day of the rest of your life.”

“Here’s to love, laughter and happily ever after. As (Groom) and (Bride) start their new life, Let’s toast the new husband and wife!”

“Let us raise our glasses to the happy couple. May you grow old on one pillow.”

“Here’s to the bride and the bridegroom, We’ll ask their success in our prayers, And through life’s dark shadows and sunshine That good luck may always be theirs.”

“May your joys be as deep as the ocean, and your troubles as light as its foam.”

(A toast to grandparents) “Let us raise our glasses And then imbibe To the splendid couple Who founded this tribe.”

Wedding toast humour can be a little daunting, but finishing with a hilarious toast to the happy couple is a classic crowd-pleaser. Not every couple wants mushy wedding speeches or a soppy toast, so a funny wedding toast might be more fitting for their personalities. Just read the room first! 

Whether you go for a funny wedding toast one-liner or a witty poem, we’ve got lots more funny wedding toasts you can explore, but these ones below are our favourites. Perfect if you’re the best man, friend, or brother in need of the perfect wedding toast - and you can also switch them up if you're celebrating an LGBTQ+ couple.

“Raise your glasses to both [daughter’s partner] and me as we’ve each gained something this fine and blessed day. S/he gains a wife and a companion for life – while I gain a whole new stack of bills to pay.”

“To the two secrets to a long-lasting happy marriage: Here’s to a good sense of humour –and a short memory!”

“Before we raise a glass to the newlyweds, I’d like to share a Pauline Thomason quote with you: ‘Love is blind – marriage is the eye-opener.’ To the happy couple!”

“May our children be blessed with rich parents!”

“Here’s to you and here’s to me, I hope we never disagree, But if, perchance, we ever do, Then here’s to me, to hell with you.”

“[NAME] stole [NAME'S] heart, so she stole his last name. All in all, I would say that things worked out quite nicely. Let us toast to these lovebirds on their wedding day.”

“Congratulations on the termination of your isolation and may I express an appreciation of your determination to end the desperation and frustration which has caused you so much consternation in giving you the inspiration to make a combination to bring an accumulation to the population.”

“[NEARLYWED] and [NEARLYWED], before I finish, I’d like you to turn to face each other. You’re now looking into the eyes of the person who is statistically most likely to murder you. To the bride and groom!”

“To keep a marriage brimming with love in the loving cup- When you are wrong, admit it and when you are right, shut up!”

“May all your ups and downs come only in the bedroom.”

“To the bride – may she share everything with her husband, including the housework!”

“Before we raise our glasses to the happy couple, I’d like to make a toast to wives and lovers everywhere – may they never, ever cross paths!”

“I have known many, Liked not a few, Loved only one – I toast to you.”

“For one more time, I’m going to ask everyone to charge their glasses and – for those who still can – stand, and raise a glass to the newlyweds”

“To our best friends, who know the most about us, but refuse to believe it.”

“Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.”

Anthony Esquire, Wedding Celebrant

Many of the toasts on this page could be used for the newlyweds, but we’ve put together a selection of modern short wedding toasts that can be given quickly to round off a speech. Public speaking can be a little scary, so having a short and sweet one-liner is a great way to wish the happy couple a lifetime of happiness without giving a long speech.

If you want to write your own, focus on words like adventure, future, happiness, love; these are the hopes you want to pass on. Once again, these are bride and groom heavy so mix them up for LGBTQ+ couples.

“A toast: may all sweethearts become married couples, and may all married couples remain sweethearts.”

“The man or woman you really love will never grow old to you. Through the wrinkles of time, through the bowed frame of years, you will always see the dear face and feel the warm heart union of your eternal love.” Alfred A. Montapert

“To the bride and groom – may we all be invited to your golden wedding celebrations.”

“They say you don’t marry the person you can live with, you marry the person you can’t live without. That sums up [NAME] and [NAME] perfectly. To the happy couple!”

“To the newlyweds, may I wish you health, may I wish you happiness, may I wish you wealth – and everything else you could wish for.”

“May your love always be added. May it never be subtracted. May your household multiply and may your hearts never be divided!”

“Watching [NAME] and [NAME] together has renewed my faith in true love. I am so honoured to be a part of this special day. Let us toast to the two people who have brought all of us together in this room today.”

“May ‘for better or worse’ be far better than worse.”

“Here’s to the bride that is to be, here’s to the groom she’ll wed, May all their troubles be light as bubbles Or the feathers that make up their bed! ”

“To the lovely newlyweds, here are my wishes for you. May you always have a place to call home and may you always be surrounded by those you love.”

“Here’s to marriage, that happy estate that resembles a pair of scissors: ‘So joined that they cannot be separated, often moving in opposite directions, yet punishing anyone who comes between them.'” Sydney Smith

“May you have love, health, and wealth, but most importantly, may you have the time to enjoy them all.”

“Love believes, endures, and hopes. And above all things, love never fails. Let us all raise a glass to [bride,] [groom,] and the unfaltering love that they share.”

“To be able to find your soul mate is a true blessing. Let us raise a glass to [NAME] & [NAME]. Thank you for sharing your blessing of happiness with all of us.”

“Rich or poor, quick or slow, may you know nothing but happiness from this day on.”

“May all your hopes and dreams come true, and may the memory of this day become dearer with each passing year.”

Wedding Toasts From Parents

Whether it’s the father of the bride or another family figure who wants to toast their child’s wedding, one of these wedding toast examples from parents will do the trick. They perfectly emphasise how happy, proud and touched you are to be part of this important day.

“It is written: when children find true love, parents find true joy. Here’s to your joy and ours, from this day forward.”

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the one we love, and they blossom when we love the one we married.”

“Before I take a seat I have one last task to perform, and it’s a task that is both my honour and my privilege. Ladies and gentlemen, please raise your glasses and join with me in wishing the newlyweds a long, healthy and very happy future together. To [Bride and partner]!”

“To the man who has conquered the bride’s heart, and her mother’s.”

“To you both, it’s worth bearing in mind that neither of you will ever be perfect, but you can be perfect together.”

“Here’s to the groom, a man who keeps his head even as he loses his heart.”

“There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings. Here is to you soaring together.”

“May you be friends to each other as only lovers can, and may you love each other as only best friends can.”

“May your love be modern enough to survive the times and old-fashioned enough to last forever.”

“May you never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.”

“May the future hold your happiness. May the future hold your health. May your heart hold your love, and may your arms hold your babies, yet to come. Here’s to your future happiness together!”

“Here’s to health and prosperity, to you and all your posterity.”

“May the light of friendship guide your paths together. May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home. May the joy of living for one another trip a smile from your lips, a twinkle from your eye.”

Wedding Toast to the Bride

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Traditionally the groom will end his speech by raising a glass to his new partner. The key is to tell them how beautiful they look and how much you look forward to your new life together. These still work perfectly for an LGBTQ+ couple.

“We have been through the better and worse (not always the better prevailed) We’ve seen the richer and poorer (the latter is most often sailed) The sickness has outrun the health (which often has caused much ado) So now I pledge to you my heart, till death do us part, And pray all our dreams will come true!”

“A thing of beauty is a joy forever. Here’s to you, my beautiful bride." John Keats

“Here’s to the woman that’s good and sweet, Here’s to the woman that’s true, Here’s to the woman that rules my heart, In other words, here’s to you.”

“Every day you look lovelier and lovelier, and today you look like tomorrow.”

“To my wife, my bride and joy.”

“Here’s to the prettiest, here’s to the wittiest, Here’s to the truest of all who are true, Here’s to the neatest one, here’s to the sweetest one, Here’s to them, all in one – here’s to you.”

“Because I love you truly, Because you love me, too, My very greatest happiness Is sharing life with you.”

“To my bride: she knows all about me and loves me just the same.”

“May I see you grey and combing your grandchildren’s hair.”

“Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you.”

“Drink to me only with thine eyes, And I will pledge with mine; Or leave a kiss within the cup, And I’ll not look for wine.” Ben Jonson

“Here’s to you and here’s to me, I hope we never disagree, But if, perchance. we ever do, Then here’s to me, to hell with you.”

Wedding Toast to the Groom

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As a twist on tradition, more brides are choosing to give a wedding toast to celebrate their partner, and to thank the guests for attending. Whether you’re after a cute wedding toast to make your other half blush, or a funny one-liner to make the wedding party chuckle, we’ve got some ideal wedding toast examples to mark the special day. Again, these are also ideal for a groom to say to his groom.

“To the two secrets to a long-lasting happy marriage: Here’s to a good sense of humour – and a short memory!”

“May we never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.”

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Best man toasts deserve their own section as this toast will traditionally close out the speeches. Sometimes, the pressure to make the best man speech funny can feel overwhelming. Just remember, the guests are on your side, and they want to laugh, cry and smile with you at the right moments.

So, if you have any worries about public speaking, don’t put any pressure on yourself to deliver the funniest wedding speech (although our funny wedding toasts above will definitely help!). 

Keep it simple, crack a joke or two if you’re comfortable, and finish by asking the room to raise a glass to the happy couple. As always, you can give these an easy and quick switch-up for an LGBTQ+ couple.

“To my best friend and his beautiful bride: the new Mr and Mrs [NAME].”

“I’d like you all to join me in wishing the new Mr and Mr [NAME] all the wealth, health and happiness in the world. To the bride and groom.”

“Raise your glass and join me in a toast, to [NAME] and [NAME] – may you always be friends as well as lovers.”

“To the two things that make a great marriage – having a good sense of humour and selective hearing. To [NAME] and [NAME]!”

“Part of the best man speech involves a toast and for me, the best kind of toast is French toast. So, buvons à ce couple heureux!”

“To [NAME] and [NAME] – we all knew [NAME] had found the one when he started spending more time with [NAME] than he did playing on his Xbox! It’s wonderful to see them both so happy together – let’s drink to that!”

“It’s been a privilege to be their best man – everyone please join me in raising their glasses to the happy couple.”

“May you always have walls for the winds, a roof for the rain, tea beside the fire, laughter to cheer you, those you love near you, and all your heart might desire.”

“Here’s to those who’ve seen us at our best and seen us at our worst and can’t tell the difference.”

It’s not always easy to know what to say when someone has been married before. The most important rule is to not mention their previous partner or badmouth that marriage. If you feel it’s appropriate, then a gentle joke poking fun at the situation can go down a treat. Just remember to focus on this new union and the prospects it brings, without any negativity.

“In the words of Samuel Johnson, ‘Here’s to a second marriage – the triumph of hope over experience.'”

“Wedlock’s like wine, not properly judged of till the second glass.” Douglas William Jerrold

“Please can everyone join me in toasting two young – well, quite young anyway – people in love.”

"Being someone's first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect".

"Like the measles, love is most dangerous when it comes late in life". 

Delivering a quote in a wedding toast is a wonderful way to give your speech a personal touch, and to help you say exactly what you mean. You could draw on a quote from the couple’s favourite author or musician, or even pick a romantic movie quote.

The format for delivering a quote as party of your toast should go something like this: “To [NAME] and [NAME] – here’s an Antoine de Saint-Exupery quote to finish on: ‘Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.’ To the happy couple!”

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Mignon McLaughlin

If there is such a thing as a good marriage it is because it resembles friendship rather than love. Michel E. de Montaigne

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved, loved for ourselves, or rather loved in spite of ourselves. Victor Marie Hugo

A wife is essential for great longevity: she is the receptacle of half a man’s cares and two-thirds of his ill-humour. Charles Reade

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. George Sand

Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife. Franz Schubert

True love stands by each other’s side on good days and stands closer on bad days.

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Dr Seuss

The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace. Fawn Weaver

A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. Dave Meurer

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to be loved by the person you love is everything.

If you live to be a hundred, I wish to live a hundred minus one, so I never have to live without you. Winnie the Pooh

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Grow old with me. The best is yet to be The last of life for which the first was made. Robert Browning

Look down you gods, And on this couple drop a blessed crown. The Tempest – William Shakespeare

I drink to the general joy of the whole table. Macbeth – William Shakespeare

When you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. When Harry Met Sally

His hello was the end of her endings, Her laugh was their first step down the aisle, His hand would be hers to hold forever, His forever was as simple as her smile, He said she was what was missing, She said instantly she knew, She was a question to be answered, And his answer was 'I do’.   Sex and the City

When you love someone, it seeps out of everything you do, it bleeds into everything you say, it becomes so ever-present, that eventually it becomes ordinary to hear, no matter how extraordinary it is to feel. One True Loves -Taylor Jenkins Reid 

It stops here. With me and you. It ends with us. It Ends with Us - Colleen Hoover

If you’re looking for even more quotes for your toast, we have inspiring quotes about love ; our favourite romantic quotes from movies ; the best Disney wedding quotes and magical Harry Potter wedding quotes !

Now, let’s clear up a few questions about wedding toasts, with some expert input to help you nail ending your wedding speech with the perfect toast.

Who Toasts Who at a Wedding?

In the UK, most people raise a toast at the end of their wedding speech. In America, the wedding speeches are commonly known as toasts, but in the UK the term refers almost exclusively to a few lines at the end of the speech when the guests raise their glass and drink to the newlyweds.

But when it comes to a wedding speech, who toasts who? The traditional wedding toast order is the father of the bride, groom and the best man, followed by any other toasts. This is obviously for a heterosexual couple; but it's not set in stone. For all couples, including LGBTQ+ couples, you can mix speeches and toasts up however you like. 

Here’s who each person traditionally toasts:

• The father of the bride toasts his daughter and the new couple 
• The groom toasts his new spouse 
• The best man toasts the bridesmaids and the new couple
• Other toasts may include the maid of honour toasting the groom

It’s totally up to the couple though how many toasts they’d like to have and who they toast to (just make sure not to make it last too long as people want to eat cake and dance!). 

"We’re so pleased that the wedding speech line-up is becoming more diverse. Couples are feeling less constrained by traditional etiquette and the usual three blokes hogging the mic is becoming less prevalent (though it’s still a popular option and could still be the right choice for you)," shares Heidi Ellert-McDermott, founder of Speechy . 

"We’ve worked with adult sons of the bride and teenage daughters of the groom! Kids and grandparents can provide some additional ‘cuteness’ and one trend we’re particularly enjoying is the rise of joint mum & dad speeches."

How Do You Propose a Wedding Toast?

There’s some simple things to remember when making a wedding toast. First, ensure everyone has their glass full so they can take a drink at the end, then get everyone’s attention. If you’re giving a speech that’s pretty easy to do. If not, the best way to do this isn’t clinking your Champagne glass, but instead go to the master of ceremonies and ask for the microphone.

Introduce yourself to the room and ask for their attention, for example, “Hello, I’m Mark, the bride’s brother. May I have your attention while I raise a brief toast to my lovely sister and her new wife?”

"If you’re one of the couple getting hitched, this is, of course, your opportunity to thank people. And it’s not just about the people who have helped you with the décor or organised the hen do, this is about the folk who have given you a lifetime of love or supported you through the single years.

As a newlywed, your toast is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to drop a love-bomb on the people you care about so take advantage and do it with a smile," says Heidi.

Keep your toast short. A few lines, a funny anecdote, a short poem or a quick quotation that’s either humorous or emotional is all you really need. "Don’t turn your speech into one long tedious thank you list. Make sure your thank yous are also unique, meaningful and sprinkled with humour," explains Heidi. 

At the end, either ask guests to rise if they’re seated, or to raise their glass if they’re standing, and take a sip.

If a toast is made just to one of the couple, their partner rises too (e.g. the groom will rise if a toast is made just to the bride). If it’s made to the couple, they both remain seated. 

When is the Champagne Toast at a Wedding? 

There are multiple opportunities for toasts throughout the big day, but the champagne toast usually kicks off the wedding reception. Once the speeches have been shared, but before the food is served, the person proposing the toast will stand and say a few words, before inviting all of the guests to raise a glass of bubbly to the happy couple. 

A champagne toast in the UK is often done at the end of the speeches, but it’s a nice way to include other people in your day by asking them to give a toast - it’s not as full on as a speech in terms of timing, but still makes them feel special. 

Traditionally, this is done by the father of the bride, but not every wedding has this role -  you can choose any close member of the family who you think would appreciate the responsibility. Just remember, if you’re the person being toasted, it’s not traditional for you to take a drink. Once everyone has had a sip and the toast is over, you can enjoy your bubbles too.  

As a twist on tradition, sometimes the Champagne toast occurs just before dessert is served. You might want to consider the flavour of your chosen bottle, and decide whether it would taste best before the meal, or with dessert.

How Do You Make a Good Wedding Toast?

A wedding toast is a few words of wishes or blessings for the newlywed couple, after which all the guests take a sip of drink in agreement. A good wedding toast is one that strikes the right balance between humour and emotion, is short and sweet, and will be remembered as a great closing to your speech. 

"We encourage everyone to include humour in their wedding toast. While no wedding speaker should be trying to deliver a stand-up routine, all speakers should aim to make their audience smile. And, not a polite smile, but a hearty involuntary one," explains Heidi. 

"When it comes to the sentimental sucker-punch, keep it real too. Think about specific things or moments that give an insight into your relationship and what it means to you."

The number one rule is: be clear-headed. This isn’t a chance to drunkenly slur into a microphone. Always practise what you’re going to say so it’s not an impromptu stream of words and wishes. If in any doubt, use a wedding toast quotation and just end with “To the happy couple!”

You can’t go wrong with a classic – these traditional wedding toasts and wedding toast quotes below will make sure you’re never lost for words.

Who Makes a Toast to Absent Friends at a Wedding?

Typically, the first speaker will make the toast to absent friends that could not attend the wedding, with a wedding toast such as: "Please join us in raising a glass to loved ones - those who are here and those who sadly can't be with us." However, regardless of where you come in the traditional wedding speech order, if you have someone important you want to toast, please don't feel like you can't.

Curious about the order of wedding speeches? We explain the traditional order of wedding speeches and how to mix it up!

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50+ Wedding Toast Examples for Every Speech

Weddings are once-in-a-lifetime events for every couple. No matter which religion or culture you belong to, every couple wishes to host a memorable wedding. There are numerous important parts of wedding celebrations, including wedding toast.

Yes, wedding toasts play a crucial role in a successful and memorable wedding celebration. Saying wedding toast may seem like a task to some people.

When given the responsibility of saying wedding toasts, you can become nervous all of a sudden. However, giving a wedding toast can be easy, especially when you are prepared. Anyone can be called upon to give a wedding toast as a speech. It doesn’t matter if you’re related to the newlyweds or not. Whether you’re the Best Man, Maid of Honor, a parent, or a close friend, raise a glass to the newlyweds.

If you are not sure of what to say as a wedding toast speech, we’ve got you covered on this! All you need is to get prepared ahead of time. Do a lot of practice in front of your mirror, and you’re ready!

In this post, we’ll dive into the various unique, heartfelt wedding toast examples for every speech. Irrespective of your role in the wedding, our list of wedding toast examples will help you make an amazing wedding toast speech that will leave the couples feeling joyful!

So, let’s get started …

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What is a Wedding Toast? The Order of Toasts Guide To Give Memorable Wedding Toasts 50+ Wedding Toast Examples For Every Speech For Best Man/Maid Of Honor For Parents For Friends And Family For Sisters General Toast For The Couple

First, let’s take a look at what a wedding toast is and how you can write one. Here we go…

What is a Wedding Toast?

A wedding toast is a group of words that are said to express happiness and wish or bless the married couple at their wedding reception or rehearsal dinners. After a wedding toast all of the attendees of the wedding raise a toast and take a sip of their beverage to show their agreement. Wedding toasts are a great way to express your feelings towards the newlyweds. A well-crafted wedding toast strikes a perfect balance between humour and emotion while being concise and memorable, ensuring it serves as a wonderful conclusion to your speech.

Take a look at the order of wedding toast…

The Order of Toasts

Usually, wedding toasts are given both on the rehearsal dinner and the receptions. The ones given on rehearsal dinners are typically informal. However, the wedding toasts at the reception should be sweet, short, and crisp. Here is the order of toasts:

Traditionally, the best man should deliver the first toast. It is okay is only the best man is giving the toast. However, it is likely that others will also want to convey their joy to the newly married couple. In addition to the best man, the maid of honour may also have the opportunity to offer a toast.

Next, the groom, bride, or both of them together may raise a toast to each other. They can then raise their glasses to acknowledge and express gratitude to the wedding party and guests for being a part of their special day.

The parents follow the bride and groom. If the bride’s parents host the wedding, they have the honour of speaking first. They should begin by toasting the newlyweds and the groom’s parents while also extending a warm welcome to all the guests.

Here is our guide to writing an amazing wedding toast speech. Take a look…

Guide To Give Memorable Wedding Toasts

To give a memorable wedding toast, you need to be sincere and genuine in expressing your feelings towards the newlyweds. Your speech should reflect on how you are related to the couple, and it should create lasting memories for everyone.

Here’s how you should prepare a short, precise, and memorable wedding toast speech.

●  STEP 1: Introduce yourself

The first and foremost step to writing a memorable wedding toast is to introduce yourself. You should briefly explain to everyone present who you are and your relationship with the newlyweds. This way, the guests will know why you have been appointed to give a toast speech.

●  STEP 2: Know Your Audience

It’s also important for you to know your audience if you have been appointed to give a wedding toast speech. You should consider the speech that will go well with the couple and wedding guests.

●  STEP 3: Add a touch of humour to your toast speech

When writing your speech, make sure to include funny words or incidents that are related to the couple. This will help to lighten up everyone’s mood while giving your speech. Make sure to avoid using insulting or humiliating words, phrases, or stories in your wedding toast speech. You should avoid making any comment that could embarrass the couple or guests.

●  STEP 4: Structure and Length

The structure and length of your wedding toast should be short and concise. Don’t make a very lengthy speech; rather, aim to give a toast that will last for just 2-3 minutes.

●  STEP 5: Practice and Rehearse

Rehearse your toast continuously in order to familiarise yourself with the content you have written. Make sure you do this, especially if you’re a shy person who can’t stand before a crowd. This will help you build your confidence and leave a lasting impression on the couple and their guest on the wedding day.

●  STEP 6: Express Gratitude

Show gratitude to the couple for giving you the opportunity and for making you witness their special day. Also, remember to thank every guest who has graced the occasion with their presence.

●  STEP 7: Raise a Toast

Finally, give your best wishes to the couple as you invite everyone to raise their glasses of wine. Wish newlyweds a lifetime of happiness and love.

●  STEP 8: Enjoy!

That’s all! The whole process of giving a wedding speech takes only 2 – 3 minutes in all. Following these tips will help you give an excellent wedding toast at your friend’s, sister’s, or anybody else’s wedding.

50+ Wedding Toast Examples For Every Speech

Here’s a complete list of over 50 wedding toasts speeches that can serve as inspiration for you. The list below contains wedding toast speeches in different categories. Take a look…

➤  For Best Man/Maid Of Honor

1. To the [Groom/Bride], my bestie, indeed, the journey of your love story is one to mimic. All I wish is that your union will be adventurous and filled with endless memories as we make this toast.

2. Being the Best Man/Maid of Honour, I’ve seen the unwavering love between these two love birds. Myself and everyone present here today wish you both a lifetime of happiness together as newlyweds. Cheers!

3. To [Groom/Bride], you are both perfect for each other. May this union bring beautiful memories of love, joy, laughter, peace, and unwavering support! We all wish you the best in your marriage. Cheers to lasting memories!

4. [Groom], you’ll always admire the beautiful face of your bride. Waking up every morning with your wife beside will forever make you joyful. We make a toast to endless satisfaction in your union. Always keep her by your side, man.

5. As your best man, I pray for you both on this special day as everyone raise their glasses. May you always walk on the path of light together with your bride! May the playful sounds of laughter and joy fill your home. I wish you a happy beginning, cheers!

6. I call on everyone present here today as a witness to join me. Let’s make a toast to this fantastic couple. I’d like to wish both [Mr and Mrs Name] all the best things in life. May tears and regrets be far from your home. To the bride and groom! Cheers!

7. Finding a wife is a good thing; don’t you all agree with me? So, to my friend here [Groom], you’ve got a great wife! I pray that you always find favour both in the sight of God and man. Congratulations man! Cheers to beautiful moments.

8. As the maid of honour, the best kind of toast I can offer to the newlyweds is French toast. So, join me as we make a toast, saying, ‘Buvons à ce couple heureux!

9. It’s an honour to be the best man to my friend here. Everyone, I’d like you all to join me. Let’s make a toast to the happy couple. Cheers and congratulations to the newlyweds.

10. It’s a great privilege to serve as my friend’s best man today. Please, everyone, come with me. Let’s make a toast to the happy couple. Heartist congratulation to the newlyweds. May you two have a great life ahead! Cheers.

➤  For Parents

11. As a parent, it’s a joy to witness this beautiful day. It is overwhelming to watch [Bride/Groom] grow up and find their life partner. This toast is to more years of love and commitment for you both. Cheers!

12. My heart is filled with immense joy for being alive today to witness this beautiful moment between these two lovers. May this legacy of love that’s between you two continue to blossom and move on to your children. Cheers to a lifetime of happiness!

13. Marriage is a beautiful thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t you agree with me? My child [Groom/Bride], I pray that peace and harmony will be the order of each day in your home. We make a toast to perfect harmony in your union.

14. As a parent, I want you to bear in mind that neither of you is perfect. However, perfection is possible only if you work together as newlyweds. Let’s make a toast to a perfect union.

15. To our beloved children [Bride/Groom], you have journeyed through life with so much love and dedication. May your new home be filled with so much love and joy, just as you’ve shared with us. Cheers to a new phase of life!

➤  For Friends And Family

16. The power of love is something we can’t explain. May the bond between you two continue to grow stronger through thick and thin. We make a toast to beautiful moments between you both and longevity!

17. As we make a toast to this newlywed couple, may this love that has brought us together here continue to radiate. Cheers to the newlyweds!

18. We are glad to see that [Groom/Bride] have found each other to be deserving of their love. We hope that their passion for each other deepens with each passing day. Let us all raise our glasses to the newlyweds as they’re about to build a new life together! Cheers!

19. Ladies and gentlemen, I kindly request your participation in raising your glasses to celebrate the newlywed couple. We wish you all the best as you embark on this new journey together. May you reach even greater heights as a united couple and always find happiness in everything you do together. Cheers!

20. Everyone, may I request you all to kindly join me raising your glasses to celebrate the wonderful couples. I wish you two a wonderful life ahead! May you always find happiness. Cheers!

21. As we raise our glasses to celebrate this newlywed couple, let us wish that the love between [ Mrs. and Mr. _____] become stronger with each passing day. May the two continue to shine brightly. Congratulations to the newly married couple! Cheers!

22. To the [Bride/Groom], your love story has really inspired every one of us present here. We are excited to be a part of this celebration today. May you have every reason to stay happy together. We all wish you both an unending journey of peace and joy. Cheers!

➤  For Sisters

23. Watching these two and reflecting on how their love story began, I’m reminded of the power of true love. I feel honoured to be a part of this significant day. Let’s raise a toast to the people who are the main reason we are all gathered here! Cheers!

24. To the newlyweds, we pray that you both have a successful and happy married life together. And you scale through life’s dark moments and shine forth. Good luck, and the favour will be yours. Let’s toast to beautiful moments!

25. As we gather here today on this special day, let’s make a toast to the beginning of a beautiful journey of my lovely sister. May celebration never cease from your home. Cheers to a happily ever after life with your love!

26. Since we have come here to be a part of this celebration today, it simply means we’re your well-wishers. In all that life has to offer, we wish you the very best. Let’s raise our glasses in a toast to [Bride/Groom]. May your happiness be forever.

27. To the extraordinary [Bride/Groom], may your new home be filled with joy and magic. The love that has brought you both together will never fade away. Cheers to a new start in your life! 28. Let’s make a toast to a love that knows no bounds. Your marriage will stand the test of time. Cheers to love and happiness!

29. Yeah! This toast is to the laughter you both will share together and the hurdles you’ll overcome. In everything you’ll face in this journey of marriage, your love will sustain you through it all. Happy married life. Cheers!

30. As we all raise our glasses to make a toast, may your new home be filled with happiness and love. May your union glitter with beautiful colours of understanding, laughter, and joy. Cheers to a new beginning!

➤  General Toast For The Couple

31. To [Bride] and [Groom], may the moments you both will share together be breathtaking. May your love for each other never wax cold. Welcome to a new phase of your life. Let’s raise our glasses, cheers!

32. We make a toast on this beautiful day to beautiful memories and years of togetherness till you both grow old. [Bride] and [Groom] will always stay joyful forever!

33. [Groom], you have made a perfect choice by choosing [Bride]; for this reason, we have gathered here to celebrate your union. We raise our glasses to make a toast to a lifetime of endless joy.

34. Here’s to a new beginning after exchanging marital vows. We’re excited to be a part of this lovely moment in your lives. Cheers to a great beginning!

35. As we raise our glasses to make a toast, may your marriage be a symphony of trust, respect, and unwavering commitment! Cheers!

36. As we witness this day, cheers to a love that will age like fine wine. The love will grow richer, deeper, and bigger with each passing year. Cheers to the best couple I know!

37. Every step you take in life together with your partner is guided with understanding. May your new home be filled with endless love and celebration always. Cheers to a new life!

38. As we raise our glasses to make a toast, we put a seal that your differences will only serve as strength to the bond you share. Cheers!

39. As we raise our glasses, I decree that your new home will be a testament to the power of love and unity. Amidst every challenge, there will be understanding to sail through. Cheers!

40. Here’s a toast to the couple who makes every moment feel like comedy and adventurous. May your life together as newlyweds be never-ending.

41. Here’s to a stress-free marriage filled with love and understanding. May your new home be filled with love, unity, and happiness. Cheers!

42. To forever and always, may your love story continue to inspire us all and your commitment to each other remain unwavering. Cheers to a new life!

43. As we make this toast, may your love story be the epitome of what true, enduring love is all about. Cheers to a lifetime of happiness and bliss.

44. We’re making a toast on this special day to seal your union. We pray you both a lifetime of happiness filled with unforgettable memories. Cheers to a blissful home!

45. As we prepare to raise our glasses for a toast, we pray for a future filled with abundant happiness for both of you. May you both enjoy good health and when the time comes, may you lovingly cradle your babies in your arms. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness together! Cheers!

46. We’re all here to celebrate this lovely couple. As we raise our glasses, may laughter never be far from your lips. May the two of you always cherish the joy of being together. Wishing you a blissful marriage.

47. Here’s a toast to a marriage filled with wealth, health, and happiness. Your steps will always be guided, and illness will be far from your home. To the latest bride and groom. (smiles) Cheers!

48. [Groom/Bride], we all love you so much. That’s why we’re here to honour this special day. We make a toast to happiness in your new home.

49. To the new couple, Mr and Mrs [Name], we raise our glasses, and we wish you both a Happy married life. May the love in your marriage be an anchor that’ll keep you both in stormy seasons. Thank you for inviting us here to share in your joy.

50. Everyone, please join me in raising your glasses to the newest bride and groom. We wish you greater heights as you embark on this new journey together as one. May you always stay happy.

51. Finding a beautiful and respectful bride is a good thing. We pray you both build a life of your dreams together. Let’s raise our glasses for a toast and say WISDOM! Yes, wisdom is what will keep you moving hand in hand through every thin and thick. Cheers!

52. To the groom, as you have found your soul mate, may you remain blessed always. Your bride will always compliment you. Let’s raise a glass to the bride and groom. Thanks for making us a part of your happiness!

53. I am so excited to be here today. Being a witness to beautiful moments like this is truly special. Life unfolds in various phases, indeed. Please join me in raising a glass to this stunning couple. May your joy and love know no bounds.

54. To the couple who make each day a memorable experience for all, may your life together be filled with endless, exciting memories. Cheers to a new and blissful life!

55. Everyone, please join me in raising a toast to the joy and success of the newlywed couple. Here is to the happily ever after! Wishing you a joyous and fulfilling married life. Cheers!

Wrapping it up…

So, there you have it: the top 50 wedding toast examples. You can use these wedding toast examples to craft unique wedding toast for the upcoming wedding of your best friend or daughter or friend. Make sure to keep your toast short, sweet, and crisp to have a lasting impression on all present out there. Make the couple feel special on their big day by sharing your best wishes with them. Whether you are related to the couple or not, it doesn’t matter. Give your best shot!

Wishing you a happy beginning!

Happy Wedding… 😊 😊

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Comprehensive Guide On How To Write A Wedding Toast

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Giving a great wedding toast could be a tough job, but when you have the right guide, it’s a breeze. We have curated a comprehensive guide on how to write a wedding toast plus samples. However, while having a structure for your toast is one thing, personal preparation is another matter.

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We also came up with tips for you, from toast etiquette to stage comportment. So whether you are a couple, friend, parent, or sibling, there is something in this post for you. Check out the limitless options and ideas on how to write a great wedding toast.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do you start a toast speech.

Grab everyone’s attention by making an announcement, then ask everyone to fill up their glasses, introduce yourself and state your purpose.

What do you say when making a wedding toast?

Say words that balance humor and sentiment so that it tugs at the guest’s emotions. Make a few words of wishes, prayers, or blessings for the couple, and keep it brief.

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• How long should a wedding toast be? The wedding toast should be a maximum of three minutes. However, the groom and father of the bride can have five minutes.
• When to give a wedding toast? The wedding toast comes up before or after the dinner at the wedding reception.
• Who can give a wedding toast? Traditionally, the father of the bride gives the toast, followed by the groom, the best man, and others. However, the toasting order has become diverse and is totally at the couple’s discretion.

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Before you put pen to paper, your mind would be a jumble of thoughts. Here is a list of questions to help you detangle your thoughts and put things in perspective. The tips will guide you to crafting the perfect wedding toast.

• How long do you know the bride/groom? Think about your relationship with the couple and how long you know them. This will either prove a trove of information or send you seeking help.
• What is your favorite memory of the bride/groom? Think of a sweet memory of the couple that strikes you the most. If there is a way to relate it to the wedding, then use it.
• What qualities do you admire in them? Talk about the virtues that make you proudly associate with them. List a few and tell the guests about them.
• How did you understand they were made for each other? Think about the moment it struck you that the couple was meant to be. Did anything spectacular happen? Talk about it.
• What is the tone/ambiance of the wedding? The mood of the wedding will help you decide whether your toast will be a largely hilarious or sentimental one. You can guess the tone of a wedding invite if it is casual, traditional, or modern.

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If you want to learn how to write a great wedding toast, here are tips to follow below.

• Introduce yourself Tell the guests who you are by stating your full name and relationship with the couple. You can also throw in a one-liner to break the ice.
• Congratulate the couple Congratulate the couple on their big day and say a beautiful wish. You may also state that you knew they were made for each other (if you were there through their relationship). Talk about how stunning and happy they look.
• Tell a story about the bride/groom Tell a sweet story about whichever of the couple half you’re closer to. Make it a hilarious story or one that showcases their virtues. On the other hand, you may say a funny story about yourself, but don’t overstretch it.
• Keep it short and sweet Be concise, go straight to the point, but ensure your toast has depth.
• Make a joke Throw in some decent jokes that will get a rise out of everyone.
• End your toast Say a wish for the couple and ask the guests to rise and raise their glasses.

Wedding Toast: Dos and Dont’s

Anyone could give a toast, but there are binding rules to ensure a seamless speech. So while preparing your wedding toast, consider this list of etiquette.

• Do memorize and practice It would be nice if you make your speech without sounding incoherent or uttering speech viruses. So after creating your speech, practice in front of a mirror or with friends. Commit the speech to memory so you are not glued to the script when giving the speech.
• Do focus on the newlyweds The wedding toast is not the time to show off your oratory skills or dazzle the audience with your aura. Everything you say must focus on the new couple because it is their day to be in the spotlight. Don’t share it with them.
• Do infuse sentiments and humor Give the guests a good belly laugh by throwing in some jokes. You may also make them shed a few tears by being very sentimental. Either way, you’ve broken the ice and trapped their attention.
• Do keep it brief Keep your speech as brief and punchy as possible. The longer you drone on, the fewer guests are inclined to listen. So, capture the guests in the first 30 seconds of your toast.
• Tell a story Regale the guests with a sweet story about the couple. Something that can make the couple blush, get the guests laughing, or squeeze out a few happy tears.

Don’ts

• Don’t panic It is okay to be anxious, especially if you have stage fright. But wear a smile and don’t panic. Just remember that you prepared and memorized your toast for a confidence boost.
• Don’t discuss planning glitches No wedding planning goes smoothly and we are aware. However, the toast isn’t a time to talk about all the unfortunate occurrences. You are there at the venue and everything looks beautiful. Stick to the positive.
• Don’t share inside jokes We know those hilarious jokes shared within family and friends. Don’t share it in your toast because the idea is that guests can catch onto a joke without explanations. So avoid sharing inside jokes because they would feel awkward.
• Don’t thank the guests on the couple’s behalf Let the couple thank the guests. Don’t do it or mention names because you will be stealing their thunder. Your toast should be about the couple and them only.
• Don’t talk about exes It is a day of joy and not one for reminiscing. So, don’t talk about who broke your friend, son, or sister’s heart. Keep all your toasts on the couple and in the present. Leave exes in the past.

How To Write A Toast For A Wedding Examples To Get Insight

Below are examples of how to write a good wedding toast, specifically for the maid of honor, sister, father, and best man. The templates range from witty to humorous, heartfelt, and sweet. The place of an introduction cannot be overemphasized even if the guests know you.

These samples also throw in some humor while discussing the couple how best they know. You will also share sweet memories about the couple, key information like how you met, and some good virtues. You may pass down some advice and then toast full time to the couple. Get some ideas from the samples below for insight.

Hi everyone! I’m _, the maid of honor, and I’ve known this beautiful bride since we met at summer camp back in middle school. I was a rather shy child and I was very worried that I was going to spend 2 weeks in the place where I don’t know anyone. But our charming bride immediately approached me and offered to be friends. Since then we have become not just friends, but best friends! We went through many different situations, and I know that _ is the person who will always support and help – her heart is full of love and kindness for all people. I am very happy to be here today on such a special day for her! And I am very glad that she met such a nice guy. I want to wish you great happiness, live a long life together and die on the same day! Cheers!

Good evening, everyone. For those of you who don’t know me, my name is _, I’m the groom’s sister. We have always been more than just a brother and sister – we have been best friends since childhood. Yes, yes, we played war games and dolls together. Ha Ha. And now I also have a sister, and this fact makes me incredibly happy! As you know, they met at the university. And from the first meeting, my brother knew that one day he would marry her. I’ll tell you a secret – he told me about it himself. _, you are such a good girl and my brother is incredibly lucky! Love each other, respect each other and live your best life together!

Hello to all! My name is _, I’m the groom’s father – for those who do not know me yet. I remember well how in the summer of 2016 I had a heart-to-heart talk with my son and he said that he wanted to focus on his studies and then on his career, and the family would come later. I told him then – do not promise. You don’t know what’s in store for you next month. Yes, it happened not in a month, but in 4 months – _ brought _ to us for Thanksgiving. His mother and I immediately understood that there would be a wedding, it could not be otherwise. If my boy introduced us to someone, then he had very serious intentions. And here we are! Today we have gathered to celebrate the wedding of our _ and charming _. Be happy!

Hi everybody! I’m _, the best men. I remember very well the evening when _ met _. It was his birthday. We joked later that he had the best birthday present that year. I’ll tell you a secret – since then every year I go to that bar for my birthday in the hope of finding my best gift there. Ha Ha. But so far unsuccessfully – this is information for all the bridesmaids, just in case. We never had any doubts that this couple is made for each other. You are similar both in character and even in your appearance. Let’s raise our glasses to the newlyweds – finding your soulmate is everything every person can dream of! Cheers!

You have a choice of giving a memorable and sweet wedding toast or leaving a sour taste with your lack of coordination. If you are down with the former, then you should learn how to write a wedding toast. Don’t search too far for tips as we have curated the best guide for wedding toasts. Whether you are a couple, family, or friend, find toast samples and all your questions answered.

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8 Expert Tips For Giving A Memorable Wedding Toast

It's a toast, not a roast, and other tips for giving the perfect wedding toast.

Giving toasts is a must where weddings are concerned. As friends and family gather to celebrate the couple, it's appropriate to honor and recount memories while wishing them well in their future together. But giving a wedding toast can be intimidating at best. What do you say, how long do you speak, and how do you get everyone's attention? We consulted with etiquette expert Liz Bryant, president and founder of Liz Bryant Business Etiquette in Richmond, Virginia, who shared essential rules and tips for wedding toasts. Read on for those expert tips plus some sample toasts for weddings to inspire you.

Liz Bryant is an etiquette expert and president and founder of Liz Bryant Business Etiquette in Richmond, Virginia.

Tips For A Perfect Wedding Toast

Keep it brief.

Whether it's due to the giver being nervous or having an exuberant personality, some toasts drone on, which isn't ideal. "We have all been at events where someone is giving a toast, and it seems to go on and on," says Bryant.

The good news, especially for those who are a bit shy, is that shorter toasts are actually more impactful and appropriate. "A perfect toast, in most cases, may be the simplest," Bryant explains.

In fact, The Protocol School of Washington goes as far as to recommend that toast givers go by the "Three B's," which are Begin , Be Brief , and Be Seated , says Bryant. "That said, conventional wisdom recommends one to two minutes."

Use Humor Sparingly

"People giving toasts at weddings should remember that it is a time of celebration, and while it should be fun, it should not, under any circumstances, devolve into a comedy routine," Bryant says. Wedding guests often witness overdone, awkward speeches filled with innuendo and inside jokes that fall flat. "It is never appropriate for a toast to be a roast. Stick with fond memories, compliments, and heartfelt sentiments," she advises. "An inappropriate toast can leave you looking the fool and, worse yet, damage your friendship [with the couple]."

Focus On Honoring The Newlyweds

The purpose of giving a toast is to honor the couple and wish them well in their new life together. It should be personalized, heartfelt, and memorable, particularly for the honorees, offers Bryant. Speak clearly, briefly, and with appropriate emotion. Bryant says that a meaningful toast should always be delivered with love.

Keep Nerves At Bay

Okay, breathe. It's natural to be nervous when all eyes are on you. "If you are nervous about giving a toast, don't overthink it, and keep it simple," suggests Bryant. Remember that the audience is full of people who cherish the couple as much as you do.

Prepare And Practice

"You definitely want to think ahead of time about what you are going to say in your toast," says Bryant. "But I don't recommend writing it down, nor should you try to memorize it word for word. You are far better off practicing a few times to get comfortable with the overall sentiment. That way, when you are delivering the toast, it will come off as more natural and heartfelt." Making a list of bullet points and speaking to each of those as naturally as possible is your best bet. When in doubt, record yourself practicing so you can review and tweak your toast before giving it live.

Start Your Toast Properly

"The proper way to offer a toast is to stand and raise your glass. No clinking to get attention. The room will acknowledge you without that," advises Bryant. "Begin by saying, 'I would like to propose a toast.' Lower your glass, look the honorees in the eye, and say, 'To the grooms, George and Pierre,'" she suggests. "Then give your toast."

End Your Toast Perfectly

The ideal way to end your toast is by toasting, of course. Raise a glass and celebrate the couple with a drink. "Immediately upon finishing the delivery, look back at the audience, raise your glass, look again to the honorees, take a sip of your beverage ( hopefully it's champagne , but any beverage is fine)," says Bryant, "and then be seated."

When In Doubt, Follow A Good Example

When writing a concise, meaningful speech, it's easy to get stumped. If you're having trouble finding the right words, search for a good example. Don't copy it word for word. Instead, use it as a springboard for your thoughts. It's okay to pack a few sentiments into a short toast. Embracing this approach will do wonders when you start to put your thoughts on paper.

10 Sample Toasts For Weddings To Inspire You

• "To Emma and Amanda, friends I hold close to my heart: May your life together always be filled with great love, frequent laughter, and wild adventure. Cheers to you and your life together!"
• "Friends and family of the newlyweds, please join me in a toast. Love is such a beautiful thing, and these two do it justice. They put love into action. You can see it in the way they look at one another, support one another, and lift each other up. To my dear friends, George and Will, I raise my glass and toast to you, your love, and your future."
• "I would like to propose a toast to the bride and groom. Caroline and Malcolm, I remember when you first met. I had a feeling you'd end up together, and I'm glad my hunch was right. May you always be as happy as we all are for you today."
• "Let's all raise a glass to the happy couple. David and Brooks, may your love and happiness only continue to grow with you. Here's to a lifetime of never-ending love and friendship."
• "I'd like to take a moment to raise a glass to Tara and Jackson. Love brought you both here to this special day. My wish for you is that love will continue to carry you through the rest of your lives together. Cheers to the happy couple!"
• "Ladies and gentlemen, please join me in raising your glasses to the newlyweds. Savannah and Owen, may you never forget the way you feel in this moment, surrounded by the people who love you and, most importantly, each other. Here's to you and a future full of love."
• "Please raise a glass and give it up for the newlyweds! Here's to your past which brought you together, to your present celebrating your commitment to each other, and to your love-filled future together."
• "To the happy couple, may you always inspire the best in each other, find humor and beauty in the little things, and remember all the reasons you fell in love."
• "It's an honor to be here to celebrate this beautiful couple. Zach and Grace, today we all bask in your love and share in your happiness. Here's to many more celebrations for years to come."
• "Let us toast to the two people who brought us all here today. May you love each other on good days and bad, always laugh at each other's jokes, and build a beautiful life together. Cheers!"

When writing your toast, remember that it's all about honoring the newlyweds . No matter your comfort level, preparing and giving a heartfelt speech is a tribute to your role in the couple's lives. In the end, a loving toast is a fabulous way to start the reception by centering the attention on the newlyweds and offering best wishes for what's to come.

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Wedding speeches and toasts may be the most daunting things to write and deliver, but they’re also one of the best parts of any wedding. They give guests a unique perspective on the couple, make you laugh, make you cry, and bring the room together. So, to take some of the pressure off your shoulders, here are some tried-and-true tips for writing a killer wedding speech and toast!

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The Basics Of Wedding Speeches and Toasts

Who gives toasts and speeches.

Traditionally, the best man, the maid of honor (MOH), and both sets of parents give speeches for the couple. You’ll also find that the couple gives a welcome and gratitude speech. However, here at Junebug , we believe it’s entirely up to you and what you want for your special day. 

We’ve seen brides give the newlywed speech, and we’ve seen best friends give speeches instead of the MOH or best man. If you’re going the non-traditional route, we don’t recommend an open-mic situation where anyone can speak, and we don’t recommend having more than five speeches or guests will start to get restless.

When do speeches and toasts take place?

Most speeches and wedding toasts are given during the wedding reception , either before or after dinner. If you’d rather they be more intimate or you aren’t having a traditional reception, you can also have them take place at the rehearsal dinner .

What is the correct order for speeches?

Did you know that wedding speeches have a logistical order that is typically followed? While it may seem like such a minute detail, it actually makes more sense than you’d imagine. It usually starts with the couple. This gives you the opportunity to welcome and thank your guests for coming. From there, it traditionally goes in this order:

• The hosts (typically the parents)
• Maid of honor

Every couple has their preferences on who they want to speak and the order in which they want them to speak. As we mentioned earlier, it’s your wedding. If you have a maid of honor who hates public speaking, or you want your best friend to give the speech rather than your best man, go for it. The same goes for the order we just listed.

How long should wedding speeches and toasts go?

No matter how long you’ve known each other, try to keep speeches under five minutes. In fact, three minutes is the sweet spot. Even if you have countless things to say, three minutes can feel a lot longer than you’d expect. Keeping it short and sweet will keep everything, including the newlyweds, happy.

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Steps For Writing Killer Wedding Speeches and Toasts

The hardest part of writing a speech is knowing where to start. If you’re drawing a blank or having difficulty narrowing down the stories you want to tell, start by making a list of your favorite qualities about the newlyweds. Chances are there are many amazing qualities about them, so making a list of your top three favorites will help you craft a personalized speech tailored to them.

To expand beyond that, you can ask yourself these questions as well:

Questions To Ask Yourself

• Is there anyone speaking before or after you? If so, how will it affect the content of your speech?
• What is the general tone you want to convey in your speech? Emotional? Joy? Funny?
• What are some of your favorite memories with the newlyweds? These memories can be based on the individual getting married or them as a couple
• What do you see when you envision their future with one another?
• Is there any advice that you want to share?

When it’s time to start writing, use the following general outline to help create a great speech from beginning to end.

1. Introduce Yourself

Tell everyone your name and a brief explanation of how and when you met the couple or how you’re related. Everyone may not already know who you are, so a little context will go a long way.

2. Tell A Relevant Story

Go back to the list you created and choose a story that reflects the qualities you love most about the couple. This should be relatable, endearing, and appropriate. Make sure you have a point to the story so that you can seamlessly tie it into your speech at the end.

3. Reminisce about the day you met their partner

Everyone in that room will likely have seen different pieces of the couple’s love story, so tell their story from your perspective. Talk about the day you met their significant other for the first time and the moment you realized this was the person they were going to marry.

4. Talk about what you love about their partner

Although your main responsibility is to talk about one of the newlyweds, every speech should ultimately be about both of them. Tell their partner why they are the best choice for your friend and what qualities you love most about them.

5. Talk about your hopes for their future as a couple

If you’re married, this is where you can insert your best piece(s) of advice for a healthy marriage. If you’re not married, wish them a long, happy, and healthy life together. Make your wishes and your advice personal to their relationship and end on a positive, optimistic, and heartfelt vision of their future.

6. End with a toast

Ending a speech can be just as challenging as starting it, which is why we recommend ending with a wedding toast. Ask everyone to raise their glass and toast to the wonderful couple—and, in your own mind, to the killer speech you just gave!

Junebug Tip:

The Art of Etiquette’s wedding guest books include ten speech sheets that will give a beautiful space for your loved ones to write the perfect speech that is short, sweet, and sentimental. We love that they’ve included these thoughtful speech sheets that will double as a wedding keepsake in your guest book.

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Tips For Giving Wedding Speeches and Toasts

Don’t drink too much beforehand.

We love open bars at weddings as much as the next person, but you don’t want to be slurring your words or drunkenly rambling in front of everyone. Just a couple of sips of liquid courage will get you through those few minutes in front of the crowd, we promise!

Don’t make it about you

It’s okay to be relatable by telling a story, but remember that this speech is about them . After you’ve introduced yourself, move on to talking about the newlyweds and their relationship.

Don’t humiliate the couple

There’s nothing wrong with jokes. In fact, some of the best toasts and speeches inject humor throughout. However, don’t use crude language, tell inappropriate stories, or mention past relationships. The moral of the story is if there’s even the slightest chance someone could feel uncomfortable about something you want to say, leave it out.

Keep it short and sweet

We mentioned this earlier, but it’s an important one! Chances are there will be at least two other people giving speeches before or after you, so keep your speech to five minutes max . If you go any longer than that, the couple and their guests may start getting a little antsy. If you aren’t sure how long your speech will take, our next tip will help.

Practice beforehand

You practice for speeches for school and work, why should a wedding be any different? Rehearse your speech with a friend or in front of the mirror. It will help get some of the nerves out and allow you to make sure it all flows before the big moment. 

Keep in mind that you’ll naturally speak more quickly when you’re handed the microphone, so as you’re practicing make sure you remind yourself to slow down. 

Write your speech down

With all the excitement and nerves of the day, there is a good chance you’ll blank out or forget parts of your speech. Even if you plan to memorize it, write it down and bring it with you just in case. Nobody will fault you for holding notes–just be sure to look up occasionally!

Pass these tips along to everyone giving a speech and toast at your wedding, and get ready for some pretty epic and heartfelt moments! Then start thinking about how to keep the party going all night with these wedding reception songs guaranteed to get your guests dancing .

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Your Go-To Wedding Toast Template

We want to help you calm your wedding toast jitters, so we’ve created a step-by-step template for you. All you have to do is replace the examples with your own stories!

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It’s only natural to feel a pang of nervousness when you’re asked to give a wedding toast. We agree this is no easy feat—it’s hard to know where to begin and what to say. We want to help you calm your wedding toast jitters, so we’ve created a step-by-step wedding toast template just for you. All you have to do is replace the examples with your own stories!

Consider this wedding toast template your guide to giving the best speech ever.

Introduction When you start your wedding toast, make sure you introduce yourself to the crowd. Not everybody is going to know who you are, so it’s good to clarify right off the bat. It’s also a good idea to note how and when you met the bride or groom to give guests some context. Ex) Jessica and I met freshman year of college when we lived in the same dorm. We’ve been best friends ever since! Recall the first time they met Were you there when the couple was first introduced? Did you introduce them? Do you remember what the bride or groom first said to you after they met? Work their first interaction into your wedding toast or what you remember thinking when you heard about them for the first time. Did your friend seem excited? Nervous? Did they get off on the wrong foot? A trip down memory lane is a nice way to segue into your weddding toast. Ex) After Jessica and Neil went on their first date, Jess came home and told me that Neil was a Yankees fan. I remember thinking, “Oh boy, this should be interesting,” since Jessica is a Red Sox fan. But hey, they made it work! Tell a story (or two) Think about a memory you two have together and tie it into the wedding day somehow. Was your friend extra competitive during sports in college? Did the two of you play pranks on each other when you were younger? Did he or she get grounded for something really funny in high school? Once you have something in mind, try to connect it to the bride and groom’s future together or what it says about their marriage. Ex) Jessica always took competitions really seriously in college, even if they were just for fun. I remember avoiding her during Greek Week, she was so into it. Just warning you, Neil, that Jessica is a fierce competitor so be prepared to lose every argument. Be sentimental Don’t be afraid to really tell the bride or groom how you feel about them in your wedding toast. If you’ve been best friends since childhood, let them know all the ways they’ve influenced you. If you met in college, talk about their great qualities and what a special friend they are to you. If there’s ever a time to be sappy, now’s the time. They’ll surely appreciate the kind words. Ex) Jessica was always there for me. Whether I needed a shoulder to cry on or a couch to sleep on, I knew I could count on her. I know she’ll be an amazing wife to Neil. Talk about what a great match they are As a close friend or sibling of the bride or groom, chances are you’ll honestly be able to speak on how they influence and complement each other. Did the bride become a neat freak after meeting the groom? Or did the groom develop a strong love for romantic comedies once they started dating? Small things like that are cute to note, but don’t forget to mention the big things like how happy they make each other, or how they’ve both become better people since getting together. Ex) I’ve never seen Jessica so happy as she is when she’s with Neil. He makes her laugh when she’s sad, he calms her down when she’s frustrated, and most of all he loves her just for being her. Wrap it up Congrats! You’re almost finished. As you near the end of the wedding toast, wish them both the best on their journey together, raise your glass (and encourage guests to do the same) and cheers to their future. Ex) Cheers to the newlyweds! I wish them a lifetime of happiness!

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How to Write a Good Wedding Toast (with examples)

Being asked to give a speech as the best man or maid of honor can be extremely nerve-wracking. If you’re wondering how to write a good wedding toast, here are some great tips and examples that you might find helpful.

Whatever you do, don’t sweat it too much. Your best friend wouldn’t have asked you to stand by him/her on their big day if they didn’t trust you. Whatever you come up with will be great, just trust yourself and breathe.

Keep Your Wedding Toast Simple

When making speeches, the simpler the better. Instead of searching for free wedding speeches off the internet, sharing fun and thoughtful memories keep your speech fun and engaging.

When you’re asked to give a wedding toast, here are the basic things you talk about:

tell the guests about you met the bride or groom (keep it light and funny or sweet and personal)

share your perspective of how the bride and groom met and how they meant for each other

wish the newlyweds happiness for the rest of their lives

You don’t need a cookie-cutter, boring speech. All you need is memories and your genuine care for the new couple.

You likely still have butterflies in your stomach about giving the wedding toast. Here are some great tips that will help:

Don’t Give Unwanted Advice

You likely know the couple pretty well if they asked you to be the best man or maid of honor. You know what the couple may or may not want when it comes to advice.

Long borning speeches can happen if you spend a bunch of time giving marriage advice that the couple didn’t ask for. Instead, most couples appreciate the nostalgia of a few well chosen memories.

Find a funny or a touching memory you have of the couple and share it with the room, plus a few well wishes and you’re done.

Make Your Taost Short But Effective

Many of us know that a long speech is very boring; you don’t want to dull the night with talks of your childhood as friends.

No need for a biography, leave it at one or two of your favorite memories to make a short but sweet wedding toast.

Write or Share a Poem

Poems might seem like the choice for sissies, but it depends on the person’s point of view along with the couple. However, a wedding is a very emotional moment and it’s sure that most people won’t mind a sentimental moment and maybe a few tears.

Don’t Forget to Introduce Yourself

Don’t make the wedding toast all about you, but also don’t forget to introduce yourself so people know the connection you have with the bride or groom. You can simply say something like, “Maggie has been my best friend since high school and I’ve never seen her fall so deeply in love until she met Andrew”.

When talking about the newlyweds, making yourself a credible witness is key. You want people to enjoy your speech even if they don’t know who the heck you are!

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Getting asked to speak at a wedding is exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking, especially since you're not a professional speaker or speechwriter! So, if you're unsure how to write a wedding speech , know you're not alone. Whether you're a member of a wedding party or a parent or sibling of the soon-to-be-married couple, you may be wondering what to say in a wedding speech. However, that's where we come into the picture: Keep reading for a full rundown of wedding speech tips , insight and, last but not least, a fully written example that you can use as a guide. Happy speechwriting!

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How to Write a Wedding Speech

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Writing your wedding speech is no easy feat. To help ensure things go as smoothly as possible, we tapped into Renée Dalo, owner of Moxie Bright Events in Los Angeles, California. Below, she shares a step-by-step guide.

Brainstorm a great opening.

To captivate other guests' attention, Daloe recommends taking some time to brainstorm a great opening. For example, she says, "Try to resist saying, 'For those of you who don't know me, I'm Erica's sister, Michelle.'" Instead, skip this entirely in favor of something more fun and creative.

Start with a story.

…but be sure to make it a short one, says Dalo. "Make sure it's relevant to your friendship and/or the couple." When selecting what story to share, the wedding pro recommends sterling clear of any that involve ex-partners—and for that matter, anything negative about the newly married couple. "Even if you think it's funny , she says, "it's not." Instead, think of a special moment or fun memory you shared with the couple. What did it involve? What was so great about it? All of these things are worth considering as you jot down your wedding speech.

Share your well wishes.

After all, what would a wedding speech be if it didn't include some well wishes for the newlyweds? "Make sure to include both people in the couple in your remarks," advises Dalo.

End with a toast.

Cap off your speech on a fun and sentimental note by ending with an actual toast . Dalo recommends this foolproof example: "Please join me in raising a glass to the happy couple. Cheers to X and Y, and best wishes for a lifetime of laughter!" Afterward, go in for a hug with the couple, making for the perfect photo op !

Rehearse away.

After you write your speech down, spend a significant amount of time rehearsing it so that you feel confident and comfortable while giving the actual speech. "Don't try to wing it," says Dalo. "You're going to want to rehearse this [so that] you can be as calm and present as possible."

Still trying to figure out where to start? Don't fret: If you could use some additional assistance writing your wedding speech, consider Provenance , which helps users create personalized, meaningful wedding speeches using AI-powered tools along with real responses to personal questions.

Take the Provenance Toast Builder , for example. Couples can invite those who will be giving wedding speeches—including the father of the bride , mother of the bride , father of the groom , mother of the groom , maid of honor and best man —to use the Toast Builder. Upon being invited to use the platform, these individuals will "get alerted to how long their speech can be," as well as any other important information to mention—or steer clear of. "From there," says Provenance CEO Steven Greitzer, "you can see the status of the speech and the estimated length."

To help get those creative juices flowing, check out the below wedding speech example.

Hi! As Lisa's younger sister—and now maid of honor—I've had the unique privilege of growing up alongside her. Since we're just two years apart, we've been each other's built-in best friends from the start. Like most sisters, we bickered constantly throughout our childhood, hurling insults over clothing, makeup and missing pieces of jewelry: I'll finally admit it, Lisa, I was the one who lost your charm bracelet at summer camp! All kidding aside, I hope I've made it up to you with this epic speech.

When Lisa first met Jay on the train coming home from work (romantic, I know!), we lived together in a tiny one-bedroom apartment in the city, an experience that only brought us closer together. After their first date to their now-favorite pizza place, she came home all giddy—bubbly, smiling, and laughing. She told me that the two of them already planned their next date. I had never seen her so happy. The look in her eyes since that night has not faded, and if I know Jay—which I do!—he will make sure it never will.

Like Lisa, Jay is kind, patient, and compassionate, and this was evident from the first time we met, which was right before his and Lisa's second date. I ran to the door to catch a glimpse of the guy who was slowly but surely stealing my sister's heart. Upon meeting, Jay and I instantly hit it off. He greeted me by name, hugged me, and took the time to sit down and truly get to know me. Less than 10 minutes later, we were already cracking jokes. It was clear to me then that Jay was, without a doubt, my sister's perfect match.

Lisa and Jay, you've set the bar (very) high for all of your friends and family when it comes to relationship goals. The love and commitment you share with each other is inspiring and everlasting. I know Jay will spend the rest of his life making Lisa happy and supporting her through every endeavor—and I know she'll do the same, too.

So, Lisa and Jay, I wish you nothing but a lifetime of love and happiness together. And I'm so excited to have a front-row seat to all that's in store. Everyone, please join me in raising a glass to the newlyweds!

Keep it short and sweet.

According to Dalo, your wedding speech should be "no more than three minutes." She continues, telling The Knot, "Three minutes is a long time, and when you figure in getting up to the mic and then hugging afterward, it's about five minutes total which is ideal." If you go any longer, you run the risk of losing guests' attention and potentially boring them (a no-no in our book!).

Acknowledge both partners.

"A big speech taboo that we see way too often is when the person giving the speech only talks about the partner they're closest with, unintentionally making the other partner feel left out and unimportant," says Greitzer. If you need a helping hand, Greitzer recommends using the Provenance Toast Builder , which offers "thoughtful prompts to encourage you to share why they're both 1) good people and 2) a great match for each other."

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Wedding Toast: How to Write a Wedding Toast

Wedding Toast Traditions

Traditionally, the Best Man is the emcee or host of the wedding reception. In addition to being responsible for delivering the first wedding toast, the Best Man is also responsible for keeping things moving. Because of this, if you are the Best Man, make sure to organize the wedding toasts beforehand. In some cases, the Best Man may be the only person to deliver a toast at the wedding. However, traditionally, the Best Man will toast the Bride, the Maid of Honor will toast the Groom, and one or both sets of parents will toast the couple. So, if you are the Best Man, make sure to go to each of these people prior to the big day to see who will want to say a few words. As the host, you’ll want to introduce each of these people before their toast. You will also want to be in charge of the microphone (if you have one.) For more details about these traditions and toast orders, take a look at this article on Wedding Wire: Who Gives a Speech at a Wedding .

How to Write a Wedding Speech

Best man toast.

When folks are looking for how to write a wedding toast, many times, it is the Best Man looking for help. The goal of the Best Man Speech is to toast the Bride. However, if you will be the only one making a toast, obviously, you’d want to toast the couple. As you prepare the toast, make sure to keep thinking about how to show the Bride’s strengths and character to her friends and family. Although, you will be tempted to make sarcastic jabs at the Groom, make sure to avoid negative stories, etc. Don’t bring up any old girlfriends or embarrassing stories about how much of a loser the groom is. Instead, focus on how wonderful the Bride is. It’s her day.

Best Man Speech Outline

• Get Their Attention : Although you will often see in movies the Best Man taking a spoon and tapping a Champagne glass, you probably won’t need to do this. In most cases, music will be playing and will stop when you stand to start the toast. So, really, all you need to do is stand and say something like, “Welcome, everyone. May I have your attention please for a few heartfelt moments while we toast the couple? Then we can eat cake…”
• Get Them Laughing : In most cases, I’m not a big fan of starting with a joke. However, because this is a festive situation, and because the Best Man speech should be really, really short, a well delivered one-liner fits really well. (Check out these time-tested wedding jokes as a start.) Obviously, keep it clean.
• Praise the Bride : For this part of the toast, make sure to look directly at the Bride. Start with her name. Then, list two or three major strengths that you recognize in her.
• Finish with the Toast : A simple phrase like, [Groom] is truly a lucky man. (Raise your glass.) Cheers!”

Example of a Best Man Toast

Welcome, everyone. May I have your attention please for a few heartfelt moments while we toast the couple? Then we can eat cake… All of you who know [BRIDE] well will know that she is a wonderful and caring person. She deserves a good husband. Thank God [GROOM] married her before she found one. Seriously, though, [BRIDE], you are truly a caring, loving, and, Thank God for [GROOM], a detail oriented person. He is a truly lucky man. (Raise your glass.) To [Bride]. Cheers!

Maid of Honor Speech

Traditionally, the goal of the Maid of Honor is to Toast the Groom . However, in modern weddings, the Maid of Honor will often toast the couple. As you begin to write the Maid of Honor speech, think about how the Bride’s life has changed for the positive since she has known her new husband. Just as with the Best Man Toast, keep it clean and positive. The major difference between the two speeches is that, the Maid of Honor Toast is typically a little more emotional or sentimental. The structure, however is similar.

Maid of Honor Speech Outline

• Give the Best Man a Simple Introduction for Yourself : Make it easy for the Best Man. Something simple like, “Please help me welcome [BRIDE]’s friend of 22 years, the Maid of Honor, [YOU]. This will make your toast much easier, because you won’t need to give any background or introduction for yourself. If the Best Man flubs your intro (remember, he is really nervous too), make sure to let the group know who you are and how you know the Bride.
• Share the Bride’s Love Story : Think about a discussion or situation that that you had with the Bride where you realized that this relationship was serious. If you can recall a truly happy moment for them both, just tell the audience about that moment. Remember, though, keep this short. They really want to eat the cake at this point.
• Praise the Groom : This is the really most important part. What you really want to do is describe what you like about the way that the groom treats and cares for the bride.
• Wish Them Happiness in the Future : Just a simple conclusion wishing them well. A simple phrase like, [Groom], I’m happy that you found true love, and I’m happy that my friend (sister) has found someone to be a true partner for her. (Raise your glass.) To all the happiness that two people can share!”

Example of a Maid of Honor Toast

I’m so honored to be able to stand with my friend of 12 years on this special day. Three years ago, [BRIDE] and I were at Starbucks, and I asked her how her date went. In that three-minute conversation, she said [GROOM]’s name about a dozen times, with a grin from ear to ear every time she said it. I knew right there, that she had found happiness. Since then, [GROOM] I’ve seen you honor her and respect her, and I am truly happy to call you a friend as well. (Raise your glass.) To all the happiness that two people could possibly share!

Father of the Bride Speech

Quite often, when someone is looking for help writing a wedding toast, he is the Father of the Bride. For the parents of the bride and groom, a wedding can be very emotional. There is a good chance that you will have a lot of wisdom to share with the couple and the crowd. Please, please,please fight this urge. Your goal is to toast the couple (and possibly inspire them). In that respect, keep your toast short and sweet. If you are the Father of the Bride, and you are looking for direction about how to write a wedding toast, here is a good outline.

Father of the Bride Speech Outline

• Inspirational Quote : Since part of the Father’s toast is inspirational wisdom, a well placed quote can get you started on the right foot. For ideas, check out this article: 100 Inspirational Quotes about Marriage .
• Praise the Bride : Tell a short story about an incident that occurred in your daughter’s childhood that showed a strength in her personality. For instance, if she is very caring, pick a story that shows that trait. If she is strong willed, pick a story showing that strength.
• Praise the Groom : Determine what the biggest strength is in your new son-in-law. What is it that makes him good at what he does? Once you determine this strength, think about the time that you first recognized that strength in the Groom. Tell briefly about this incident.
• Words of Wisdom : A good conclusion is to show how the two strengths compliment each other.
• The Toast – Welcome the Groom to the Family : Conclude the toast by raising your glass and welcoming the Groom to your family.

Example of a Father of the Bride Toast

Dr. Suess once said, “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” I know… I was surprised that it didn’t rhyme too. When I see these two together, though, I see that they have a pretty special reality. When [BRIDE] was eleven, she and I had a father/daughter outing to a ballgame. She was so happy to come with me, although she wasn’t vaguely interested in the game. [BRIDE] came, though, because she knew that it would make me happy. She always puts the needs of others in front of her own needs. Last year, [GROOM] came by the house to pick up [BRIDE] for a movie date. When I asked what movie, I was surprised that it was a romantic comedy. For those of you who know [GROOM], he is a guy’s guy. In that moment I remembered distinctly that moment at the ballpark when [BRIDE] was jumping up and cheering when I jumped up and cheered. I knew that [GROOM] was doing the same for [BRIDE] that she did for me years ago. When you care about someone so much that you will do absolutely anything to make them happy, you are making reality even better than the dream. [GROOM], welcome to the family. (Raise your glass.) To making reality better than the dream!

Father of the Groom Speech

The father of the groom speech is just like the father of the Bride speech, but with a focus more on the couple than the individuals. In addition, if you recall, in the Best Man’s speech where we started with something funny.The Father of the Groom speech is a good place to add a little deprecating humor if you like. Obviously, the goal is not to embarrass the Groom. However, a little ribbing can add some humor. In addition, you want to add some wisdom and inspiration at the conclusion. If you are looking for help about how to write this type of wedding toast, here is a good outline.

Father of the Groom Speech Outline

• Funny Story about the Groom : Don’t step on the Best Man’s toes. It is best to choose an incident from early childhood. However a funny jab at the Groom is perfectly acceptable.
• Praise the Groom : A short, second story to show your son’s growth over time is a good way to praise the man that he has become.
• Praise the Bride : Determine what the biggest strength is in your new daughter-in-law. What is it that makes her good at what she does? Once you determine this strength, think about the time that you first recognized that strength in the Bride. Tell briefly about this incident.
• The Toast – Welcome the Bride to the Family : Conclude the toast by raising your glass and welcoming the Groom to your family.

Example of a Father of the Groom Toast

When [GROOM] was 10-years-old, I found him counting his birthday and Christmas money in his room. I suggested that he save his money. A little here and a little there will really add up over time. He turned to me and said, “Dad, I’m buying a Nerf gun. It’s not like I’m blowing it on hookers and cocaine.” Your Mother and I transferred you to a private school shortly after that. Years later, when you were planning for college, I went to you and offered to help. You looked me dead in the eyes and said, “Dad, I really appreciate that, but this is something I have to do on my own.” That is the kind of character that will make you a good husband and a great father. Now, [GROOM], you have a loving and dedicated woman, [BRIDE] at your side to help you through the tough times. So, from here on, you no longer have to do it on your own. [BRIDE], welcome to our family. (Raise your glass.) Please join me in toasting the couple. To doing it together!

It Really Isn’t About How to Write a Wedding Toast

By the way, use these tips and the structure about how to write a wedding toast as a guide. In reality, though, just speak from the heart. The process isn’t about following steps or saying just the right thing. It is about showing the couple how much you love them. When you do this, you will have a fantastic speech!

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How To Write A Wedding Toast: Tips And Examples

• Share Connections
• Organize Your Thoughts
• Be Detailed
• Talk About Before And After
• Stick The Landing
• Be Sentimental
• Careful With Jokes
• Write It Down
• Keep It Short

Summertime isn’t just about s’mores, fireworks, and trips to the beach. It’s also wedding season. Summer is one of the most popular times of the year for happy couples to say their “I dos.” In fact, about 65% of all couples get married during the summer and fall. If you factor in all the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and parents of the couples at these many weddings, that’s a lot of people who have a speech to write!

Writing a wedding speech can feel daunting. It’s a really important occasion, and there is so much pressure to strike the exact right tone. Your speech will likely be immortalized on videos and social media. But, before you let the pressure get to you, take a deep breath. We’re here to help with 11 simple tips to write a wedding speech that will have every guest laughing, crying, and celebrating your favorite couple right along with you.

1. Share your connection to the couple.

When you first rise to give your speech, you’ll be in front of a mixed audience of people who know you well and people who don’t. For that reason, it’s a good idea to start the speech by introducing yourself. Briefly share how you know the couple and how excited you are to have the chance to speak at their wedding. To break the ice, you might even start with a joke or funny anecdote.

Example: It’s an honor to be here tonight as the best man. As many of you know, I’m Greg’s older brother.

Example: Thank you so much for being here to celebrate with us tonight. When Luisa came up to me at Target and asked me to be her maid of honor, I was so touched she’d take a chance on a stranger like that. I’m just kidding! I’ve known this amazing woman for 15 years.

2. Write a clear beginning, middle, and end.

Speeches are an important and memorable part of a wedding, so don’t wing it. Take some time before the big day to write out what you plan to say and organize your thoughts into parts. Having a clear beginning, middle, and end can give your speech a natural arc that makes it more pleasant to listen to and prevents rambling. The parts of your speech may include:

• Beginning: Introduction and story of how you know the couple.
• Middle: Fond memories of the couple’s meeting, courtship, and love story.
• Ending: Talk about all they have to look forward to and wish them future happiness.

3. Be detailed.

If you’ve been asked to speak at a wedding, it’s likely because you’re a treasured loved one. You know the couple well, and you can use that to your advantage. Include plenty of details in your speech about what makes each member of the couple unique and meaningful memories from your relationship with them. The more special details you include, the more intimate and heartfelt your speech will seem.

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4. Talk about before and after.

If you’ve known one or both partners for many years before their wedding day, you have a great lens for sharing how wonderful things have been since they met their significant other. Talk about how finding love has changed them for the better and all the ways you’ve noticed the increase in their happiness. You can even share how much you hoped they’d meet the right person for them, and how thrilled you are now that they have.

5. Stick the landing.

The ending of your speech should leave a lasting impression, so finish strong. Drive the speech toward a single point or observation that really drives home why the couple is so great together and why it’s such a joy to share in this moment. Then, encourage the audience to join you in a toast or congratulations. Here are some examples:

Example: Greg has inspired me since we were kids, and now I find myself inspired once again by the love you both share. Congratulations, Greg and Sarah!

Example: I’m so excited that my best friend Claudia has found the very best person to be her wife. Let’s toast to a lifetime of love and happiness for these amazing brides.

6. Make it your own.

Use your unique sense of humor, style, and talents to make your speech stand out. If you’re an excellent musician, maybe you want to serenade the couple with a short love song instead. If you’re a talented comedian, pepper your speech with jokes. If you’re an awesome storyteller, experiment with structure or even write your speech in the style of a short story about the couple’s meeting. Your speech is your chance to celebrate the couple, and adding your personal flair can help make that celebration even more meaningful.

7. Don’t be afraid to get sentimental.

Weddings are all about sharing the love, so don’t be afraid to be mushy. This is one of those rare opportunities to dwell on what two people really mean to you and why they are so important in your life. Talk openly about how much the bride or groom has impacted your life and how genuinely happy you are to see them find love with the perfect person for them. To make it extra sweet, you might even include:

• Song lyrics.
• A story from your youth.
• Special nicknames you share.

8. Cut the inappropriate jokes and stories.

Yes, that time the bride threw up at a pool party in college was hilarious, but would you really want someone to share that story about you in front of dozens of your family and friends? A wedding speech can be light-hearted, but it should never be humiliating or mean-spirited. The speech needs to appeal to a broad audience and celebrate the couple without embarrassing them. This isn’t the time for overly specific inside jokes, stories that are way too personal, or to “roast” anyone.

Funny ? Smart ? Talented ? Replace these overused words with much more colorful and vibrant alternatives to describe the beloved people in your life.

9. Write it down.

Even if you don’t plan to read your speech from a piece of paper, you should still write it down. This will help you get your ideas in order and start to memorize what you’d like to say. On the day of the wedding, don’t be afraid to bring note cards or a digital note on your phone with some reminders about the key points you need to hit. It’s an important moment and you might be nervous, so having these cues available will ensure you get through it with ease.

10. Keep it short and sweet.

Once you have your speech drafted, time yourself reading it to make sure it goes no longer than 3-5 minutes. Weddings typically have several speakers, and the speeches often come while people are waiting for food or drinks to start being served. It’s important for speakers to be aware of this and not make guests sit through anything long-winded. Short, simple, and to the point works here!

11. Practice, practice, practice.

Rehearse your speech several times before the wedding. Reading it out loud will help you catch issues with flow or wording. Reading it out loud to someone else may be especially helpful. When you have an audience, even if it’s just one other person, they can tell you if they’re connecting to what you’ve said, how your jokes land, and if you have the timing down. The more comfortable you are with your speech, the more likely the big day will go perfectly.

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Craft a Memorable Father of the Bride Speech with Our Guide

Introduction.

A s a father, your daughter's wedding day is one of the most significant moments in your life, something you've eagerly anticipated since the day she was born. But while you may have imagined walking her down the aisle, nothing compares to the reality of that moment. The father of the bride speech is essential to any wedding, but getting it right can be daunting. You want to strike the perfect balance between humor, emotion, and sincerity while avoiding cringe-worthy moments. 

But fear not because this article will guide you. From what to say to the dos and don'ts, and even some sample father of the bride speeches to help you get started, this article is your true friend when it comes to creating a unique and memorable father of the bride speech.

The Father of the Bride Speech : What to Write, Say & Do

We've got you covered, whether you're a pro or feeling the jitters. Stick to our tips and give a father’s wedding speech that will make your daughter beam with pride.

Father Of the Bride Speech Template

Wondering how to write the best father of the bride speech? Here's a breakdown of a simple yet impactful speech. 

1. Breaking the ice

Start your father of the bride speech with a quick introduction and a funny joke to break the ice. While everyone knows who you are, it's always better to set the tone of the speech and welcome the guests. However, don't take too much time thanking them; it's the groom's responsibility.

2. Remembering fond memories

This is your daughter's big day, so highlight her life journey. Share some endearing anecdotes from her childhood that reflect her personality today. You can be funny, but avoid any stories that could make her uncomfortable. After all, it's her special moment

3. Praising your daughter 

Use this day to show how proud you are of your daughter. Add to it the memories from her childhood - elaborate on how she has always been a source of joy and inspiration. Express your love and admiration for her without holding back.

4. Welcoming the new family member

The speech is also ideal for welcoming your son-in-law to the family. Focus on the positive aspects of his personality and how he complements your daughter. If you don't know him well yet, share your daughter's thoughts and feelings about her new spouse.

5. Humor in moderation

Share a funny story about the newlyweds that will make everyone laugh. It could be about how they met or your first impression of your daughter's spouse. Just make sure it's not too embarrassing or inappropriate for them. After all, you want to keep the mood light and enjoyable.

6. Gratitude and acknowledgement

It's important to acknowledge and thank the bride's mother and new in-laws in your speech. Thank your wife for raising an amazing daughter, and embrace your new family members with open arms. Show your appreciation for their support and participation in this special day.

7. Parting words of wisdom

As the eldest of the speakers, you can share some wisdom and advice for the newlyweds. Share your insights on maintaining a healthy and happy marriage or living a fulfilling life. Make the most of this moment, and inspire the newlyweds to create their beautiful journey together.

What Should A Father Of The Bride Speech Include? Tips and Pitfalls to Avoid.

With the father of the bride speech templates in consideration, let's discuss what to include and avoid to ensure a successful speech. Avoid the 7 common pitfalls and deliver a speech your daughter will cherish forever.

Pick a theme

Select a meaningful theme for your speech that reflects the occasion and your relationship with the couple. A well-chosen theme will make organizing your thoughts and delivering a cohesive message easier.

2. Keep it short

Aim for a five-minute speech. Stick to the main points and share heartfelt anecdotes to keep your audience engaged.

3. Stay positive

Remember that a wedding toast is not the time to bring up negative stories or air grievances. Keep your speech uplifting and focus on positive memories and wishes for the couple's future together.

4. Personalize your message

Make your speech unique and personal by sharing stories and memories that showcase the couple's love and commitment. Speak from the heart and avoid cliches or generic advice.

5. Practice makes perfect

Prepare and practice your speech well in advance to ensure you feel confident and comfortable delivering it. Practice in front of a mirror or with a friend, and aim to memorize your speech if possible.

6. Be yourself

Don't try to be someone you're not in your speech. Speak authentically and from the heart, and let your personality shine through. Remember, your words should reflect your relationship with the couple.

7. End on a high note

Conclude your speech with a memorable and heartfelt message that leaves a lasting impression on the couple and guests. Wish the couple well and raise a toast to their future happiness together.

Kick Start the Brainstorming 

It's normal to feel unsure about what to say in your speech. If you're struggling, try using these questions to get your creative juices flowing.

• What's your earliest memory of your daughter? - Asking this question can bring heartwarming and nostalgic memories that you can incorporate into your speech.
• What qualities do you admire most in your daughter's partner? - Focusing on the positives of your daughter's partner can help you build a connection and show your support for their union.
• What advice would you give your daughter for a successful marriage? - Drawing from your own experiences and mistakes can provide valuable insight and guidance for the newlyweds.
• How has your relationship with your daughter changed over the years? - Reflecting on the changes and growth in your relationship with your daughter can add depth and emotion to your speech.
• What message do you want to leave with your daughter and her partner on their wedding day? - A clear message can help you stay focused and deliver a meaningful speech that will resonate with the couple and guests.

Father of the Bride Speech Examples

Get inspired by real-life father of the bride speeches, as they have been tried and tested. These excellent examples showcase what has worked for others and can help you craft your speech.

Simple father of the bride speech example

My dear daughter, today is a day I have both looked forward to and dreaded. As I stand here, watching you radiate with joy and beauty, I feel proud and nostalgic. It seems like only yesterday when I first held you in my arms, and now you are, all grown up and getting married. You have been the light of my life.

Today, I am thrilled to welcome my new son-in-law into our family. I am so glad to see that he makes you happy and loves you so much. I do not doubt that together, you will build a beautiful life filled with love, laughter, and unforgettable memories.

Looking back, I see how much I've learned from you. Your tenacity, courage, and kind heart have taught me valuable life lessons; I am grateful for that. It is an honor to walk you down the aisle and give you away to your beloved.

Lastly, I want you to know that no matter what, I’ll always be there for you. You will forever be my little girl, and I will forever be your proud dad. Congratulations, my dear daughter, and cheers to the happy couple!

Funny father of the speech example

Hello everyone, I am thrilled to have you here today to celebrate the marriage of my beloved daughter. As a father, it's hard to let go of your little girl, but I'm happy to see her in good hands with her charming groom.

When my daughter first brought her future husband home, I was relieved that he wasn't covered in tattoos or piercings. Instead, I found a kind-hearted and successful man who loves my daughter unconditionally.

Marriage is a journey, not a destination. There will be moments when you'll want to scream and other times when you'll laugh until you cry. But always remember to be each other's biggest supporters and love each other fiercely.

As for myself, I'll be retiring as a "Dad" today and promoting myself to the "Father-in-law." But don't worry; I'll still be here to offer unsolicited advice and embarrass you in front of your friends.

Cheers to the newlyweds, and may your love be as strong and vibrant as your wedding day!

Sentimental father of the bride speech example 

Dear guests,

As I stand here before you today, watching my beautiful daughter start her journey with the love of her life, I am filled with overwhelming emotion. From the moment she was born, I knew she was destined for greatness, and seeing her marry the man of her dreams only confirms that belief.

Daughter, I'm so proud of the person you've grown up to be. You have become an independent, caring, and intelligent person, and it has been a privilege to watch you blossom over the years.

And to the groom, I want to thank you for being the perfect partner for my daughter. Seeing how you love and support her makes me grateful that she found someone like you to share her life with.

I do not doubt that the future holds wonderful things for both of you, and I am honored to have been a part of this special day. Congratulations to the happy couple, and may your love continue to grow stronger with each passing day.

Short father of the bride speech example 

Ladies and gentlemen,

On this beautiful day, I feel grateful to have gained a son-in-law and a new friend. As a dad, I've watched my daughter grow into a beautiful, independent woman, and it brings me so much joy to see her this happy. It takes a special person to win over my daughter's heart, and I am glad you have done so with flying colors. To the happy couple, I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness. Cheers to a new chapter in your lives, and may your love continue to flourish and grow.

Thank you. 

As your daughter's wedding day approaches, crafting a heartfelt father of the bride speech can be overwhelming. But with the right tools and techniques, you can deliver a speech that will leave a lasting impression on your daughter, her new spouse, and guests. From templates to start with to questions for brainstorming, to tips for avoiding common pitfalls, this article has provided you with everything you need to know. And with the help of some real-life father of the bride speech examples, you can add your personal touch to create a speech that will be treasured for years to come. Congratulations on your daughter’s wedding! 

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How to Write an Unforgettable Newlywed Reception Toast

Raise a glass to your guests and new spouse.

Jaimie Mackey was the real weddings editor at Brides from 2013 to 2015. She also worked as a luxury wedding planner and produced over 100 high-end weddings and events in Colorado

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A toast by the newlyweds during the reception isn't required, but it is a welcomed and thoughtful gesture—one that can also be useful in moving along the evening's events if need be. It's not a long one (that's usually made by the groom during the rehearsal dinner), but it's always a nice touch that reflects how humbled and thankful you are for having all of your loved ones take part in the momentous occasion with you. Your guests will definitely appreciate a few words from the couple of the night and feel truly treasured afterward. After all, they did come all this way just to celebrate the two of you, right?

But, what should you say while giving a toast and raising a glass during the reception? We've put together several guidelines, including expert tips and examples from Beth Sherman, an Emmy Award–winning comedy writer and founder of Authentically Funny Speeches to help. Read on for all the important tips and tricks to ensure your reception speech is a memorable one.

Meet the Expert

• Beth Sherman is an Emmy Award-winning comedy writer who has written for shows such as The Ellen DeGeneres Show, The Late Show with David Letterman, and The Oscars. Sherman is also the founder of Authentically Funny Speeches , a consultation business offering courses on speech writing.

Newlywed Reception Toast Template

Finding the right words to adequately express yourself in front of all of your friends and family can be tough, so here are several components to include when addressing your beloved guests .

Welcome guests. Acknowledge all of your loved ones and how important their presence is to the occasion. "First and foremost, thank the guests for coming," advises Sherman. "You might also want to single out whoever made the longest journey to be there on the big day—and remember, the phrase ‘longest journey’ doesn’t have to be taken literally."

Show gratitude. Begin by thanking both of your parents, families, and wedding party for all the support they've provided during the planning process. "If you’ve been a difficult bride-to-be (and you know who you are), a little good-natured self-awareness will go a long way here," notes Sherman. If one (or both) set of parents contributed financially to the wedding, be sure to thank them for hosting such an amazing evening in your honor. If your wedding planner is present or the service staff has been absolutely exemplary in their performance, it's nice to say a quick thank-you for their supporting role, too, but be mindful of the time. Try not to single out too many people, lest you turn this into an Oscars acceptance speech ( cue speech play-off music ).

Don't forget to thank your new spouse. "It may sound obvious, but you’d be surprised how often it happens," says Sherman. "Save the best for last and end on a thank you that turns into a physical toast." You may have said a lot already during the ceremony , but you've been married for only a few hours. Why not gush for a moment about how happy you are to be married to the person standing next to you? A sweet aside will garner a few "awws" from the crowd and remind everyone why they are there with you.

Give instruction about whatever is coming next. As you wrap up your toast, let guests know if you'll need them to head to a different room, gather around the dance floor for the first dance , or stay in their seats as entrees are served.

A toast. Don't forget to end your toast by inviting guests to raise a glass . Toast to love, to life, to your new spouse, or to your family and friends for coming to your wedding. Then clink those glasses and take a sip!

Newlywed Reception Toast Tips

Now that you've got your thoughts outlined, check out these tips from Sherman to nail your wedding reception speech.

Go last. Save your toast for the very end of the speech-giving segment and allow all your designated loved ones to shower you with embarrassingly kind sentiments. Sherman suggests being gracious enough to allow other speakers to have first dibs on any choice anecdotes. "You and your partner are the headliners—the ones everyone is there to see—so your guests’ attention spans will reset automatically no matter how long your dad goes with his detailed review of every boyfriend you’ve had since kindergarten," she adds. "Going last also means that all your other speakers can sit back and enjoy your speech instead of preparing for or dreading their own."

Get everyone's attention. While speakers typically think to clink their glass to get people to pay attention, this can usually be ineffective and go unheard in large rooms. The best way to start the speech is to simply ask for the mic and then request your guests' attention for a few brief moments. Choose a time when all of the guests have a full glass of Champagne or a cocktail so that they can join you in raising a glass.

Don't go overboard with humor. Everyone loves a good laugh, and it's a great way to loosen up your guests a bit during your toast. But keep in mind that there is a big difference between actually saying something funny and just telling a bunch of jokes. Stick to humor that comes about organically within your content, and leave the latter for a comedy special.

Keep the drinking to a minimum. We know this can be a bit tricky, being that you're the VIPs of the day and everyone will be wanting to have a drink with you before, during, and after every event. Try to keep your drink number relatively tame if you know you'll be addressing the crowd later. A slurred speech is never a good speech.

Relax. "Even if you hate public speaking , you’re going to enjoy this," says Sherman. "This is the most loving, supportive audience you will ever have. Your friends and family want to hear from you and they want your speech to succeed." All you have to do is say a quick thank you to them for being there and you're done. Nothing to stress about.

Be mindful of body language. An exemplary toast is never just about eloquence. You have to make sure you're nonverbally communicating your message as well. Make sure to stand tall—please don't ever deliver a speech sitting down. Not only does it come across as disrespectful, but it also allows people to just tune you out. Keep a big smile on your face (this is the happiest day of your life, right?) and maintain eye contact with your guests.

You can both speak. Traditionally, if there is a bride and groom, the groom speaks and the bride does not, but this is completely up to preference. Same-sex couples can delegate the duty to one of the newlyweds as well. If the couple chooses to share the delivery, it is best to establish the speaking order beforehand so there is no awkward fumbling of the mic. If only one of you is speaking, use the inclusive "we" pronoun whenever appropriate to acknowledge that your partner also shares the sentiments. But, keep in mind that this speech is different from the longer toast that the groom traditionally makes during the rehearsal dinner. This should just serve as a quick thank-you.

Divide the speech in half or split it up by paragraphs. If it's divided in half, give the person doing the second half of the speech the very first line, so it feels like a group effort right from the very beginning.

Answer These Questions to Get Started

We know getting started is the hardest part, so here are some questions to kick off the process.

• Who is speaking before you? (Perhaps, you will want to make a reference to them or refer to part of their speech in yours. Maybe even add in a rebuttal if the prior toast-maker was exceptionally cheeky.)
• Was there someone that went above and beyond in helping make the big day a success? (This would be the perfect time to give them an extra-special shoutout.)
• Is there something the guests should be made aware of? (Prep your guests if you're planning something special or unconventional.)
• How will you invite everyone to meet your toast? (A traditional, cultural call to action like cheers, l'chaim , prost , etc. are always classic choices.)
• Did anything unexpected happen during the day's events? (You can take this moment to lightheartedly mention it and diffuse it, if need be.)

Newlywed Reception Toast Examples to Make Your Own

To help you get a feel of how all those tips and guidelines come together, Sherman provided a few examples to illustrate just that. (Names and details have been changed. Speeches are not published in their entirety to protect client confidentiality. )

And mostly what we want to do is sincerely thank each and every one of you for joining us this weekend.

"Kat and I wanted to say a few words today. We know it hasn’t been easy. In the best of times, a wedding invitation comes with an implied to-do list—a happy one, but let’s be honest, it’s a to-do list. So, we can’t say enough how grateful and flattered we are that you consider us worth the effort." —Heather

"Without this sounding too much like an awards ceremony, there are a few people I’d like to thank. First, my sister , Sam. She’s been a constant source of support throughout my life. She’s the strongest, most resilient person I know. She’s also the one of the kindest. She’s helped me plan and re-plan so many parts of this wedding. And no good award speech would be complete without thanking one’s parents! Not a day goes by that I’m not acutely aware of their love and support.  

Their calm and constant guidance has always gotten me through any uncertainty.

And even better than that, they’re a lot of fun to be with. Mom and Dad, I don’t know what I did to deserve you. I know there are times you’ve thought the same of me with a slightly different emphasis perhaps, but I am immensely proud to call myself your daughter. To Jo, Ben and Frasier, thank you for folding me so completely into your family . Jo, you have one more woman on your team! The numbers are still a bit lopsided, but we’ll get there! Truly, you are the kindest, most welcoming in-laws I could ask for, and I look forward to celebrating many more happy occasions with you." —Tia

"Dave, I know we took our vows during the ceremony, but I’d like to end with a few more. I promise to always be there when you need me. I promise to make sure you always feel safe and loved. I promise to continue pretending to enjoy and understand all sports you make me watch. (I might regret this.) And I promise to always be willing to negotiate a back scratch. Now before I go into my ugly cry, would you all raise your glass to my wonderful new husband? To Dave!" —Cynthia

A Guide to Wedding Reception Toasts

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How to Write a Wedding Toast

Tips for the Father of the Bride Speech

How to Write a Best Man Toast

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What to Know About a Newlywed Toast

Public Speaking Experts' Wedding Speech Tips

60 Quotes to Use for Your Wedding Toast

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How to Write and Deliver a Perfect Father-of-the-Bride Speech

How to Write a Maid of Honor Speech

How to Write a Timeless Engagement Toast

How to Write a Sister-of-the-Groom Speech

How to Write the Perfect Best Man Speech

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